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Are tattoos and piercings undoubtedly a sign of sluttiness? And if so, which one more?
Can anyone here nutshell sleazys book on Online dating for me please? In a few bullet points if possible.Im back on the apps .. need tips to handle deez hoes.
I can only get halfway through the book due to my ADHD.
I will specify I’m looking for some kind of relationship over hookups this time.
Thanks CJ
https://www.reddit.com/r/martialarts/comments/1m46zm0/im_in_heaven_with_my_wife/
I don’t want to bag on this poor guy too much. He may not be “Chad” but he looks better than his wife and could have done better than this, couldn’t he?
Well, at least he’s got a hobby to dedicate himself to and “the wife” seems supportive of it. that’s at least something.
This guy looks far better than his wife. It is painful to watch this short clip. Worse, he is rationalizing her engaging in his hobby as “being in heaven”. I am sure that 99 out of 100 guys rather have a hotter chick, ceteris paribus, than one who pretends to be into your male hobbies.
You know, this reminds me of this post from Roissy a long time ago pointing out an interesting phenomenon:
https://heartiste.org/2011/12/06/the-handsome-man-ugly-woman-couple-syndrome/
Putting aside some game bullshit sprinkled here and there (ugly man bagging a hottie just because he’s “funny”), he’s quite right. When we see the good looking guy with an ugly woman, it’s a repulsive sight and we usually infer that the dude (and often correctly so) is either a loser, or at least has a lot of loser characteristics. But we don’t assume this of the woman in the opposite case. If a hottie gets with a guy who isn’t her match in looks, we can usually infer, and often correctly so, that he’s got a lot of compensating factors (i.e. rich, powerful in a niche, etc.) on the table to have made it happen.
Sadly, the handsome man/ugly woman coupling has started more and more common as the world has started becoming more woke and pussified.
On the subject of hobbies and chicks pretending to be interested in them, I’ve personally never found it to be the case that any woman I’ve been involved with genuinely gave a shit about any of my interests/hobbies. I’ve come to believe that the only time that women are genuinely into your music or gaming hobby, for example, is if it’s bringing you a decent income or some level of status. I would actually get really annoyed having some chick hanging around while I’m trying to slay a boss on Dark Souls or pin a difficult part down during a recording session. Likewise, I could give two shits about some chick’s trash reality tv addiction. It’s pretty uncommon that couple share an interest in working out or doing cardio together etc.
Very mid-looking but also tall guy sporting his hot girlfriend: https://youtube.com/shorts/uqPp4aF73f0?si=IG3MIiu5aLMCsO4a
This is a great video. Again, even if it staged, it exhibits a pattern among women. If she wants to be upset about something, she will find a reason to be upset. It will not bother her at all that she is contradicting herself.
Presumably beta provider shacked up with painfully average chick with annoyingly nasally voice can never be satisfied: https://youtube.com/shorts/o35RpDj1xj4?si=D9v4cy1WqSns1HIs
I’m sure everyone has heard about the super viral CEO/HR cheating scandal where they were caught on the kiss cam at a Cold Play concert: https://www.msnbc.com/opinion/msnbc-opinion/coldplay-kiss-cam-scandal-astronomer-ceo-explained-rcna220113
Imagine being a successful CEO and risking the ruining of your entire life for a 52 year old hag with a horse face. I’m completely dumbfounded.
This story is crazy. Had he picked a prime-caliber 19-year-old, this guy would be celebrated online. Instead, he went for the easy option. Well, I can understand why this guy was embarrassed when he was shown on the big screen with that woman. Amusingly, had he been out with some hottie and casually made out with her during the “kiss cam”, nobody would have cared about him. Only his idiotic reaction led to this story blowing up and the guy getting booted from his job. Yes, officially he “resigned”, but CEOs hardly ever get fired. They get told to resign and normally get a “golden parachute” in exchange.
Can you imagine how raped this guy is going to get in divorce court? If he has any wits left about him at all he will grab whatever assets he can and flee to the third world. There he can at least bang out some gold diggers in relative comfort.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=doNPablPgbU
The first step to learning empathy for feminists. 😀
This story seems made up because the 4chan-style green text is not a form of writing the female mind gravitates toward. That being said, such videos get popular because they illustrate facts of life that the mainstream refuses to acknowledge.
Yeah, this specific story could very well be fake, but we do have confirmed real life events of what happens when radical feminists actually submerge themselves into what it is like to live as the average man. The story of Norah Vincent should be no stranger to most of the folks here.
Aaron,
What does a woman mean when she says you guys were clicking? I met this girl, and she’s wants to go out again because supposedly we were clicking. I don’t know what this clicking is. She’s 28 years old. I was very evasive for about a month and a half until I finally disclosed to her what I do for a living.
Normally women want to know right away what you do for a living, so her sticking around for that long is a sign that she is quite interested in you. Her saying that you and her are “clicking” is just a casual expression. She means that she thinks you and her really fit, or really understand each other. It is just her interpretation. If a woman is into a guy, she is obviously “clicking”, even if the guy is only looking for a side piece.
I think you no longer have trust in women who are sincerely interested in you, because you have been with many “whores”, therefore lose trust of women whom you can have a long-term relationship.
That is the price to pay for sleeping with too many women, you no longer trust them. Pushing for sex too early will yearn you the exact types of women that you better avoid for your mental health.
Just text her and tell her to meet up for a date, if you want to reconnect with your humanity.
@Cuong Quoc Vu
“I think you no longer have trust in women who are sincerely interested in you, because you have been with many “whores”, therefore lose trust of women whom you can have a long-term relationship.”
That’s because the majority of women are indeed whore’s. I guess the only solution is to find myself a nice Amish girl. I’ve seen many women do scandalous stuff. For instance, I once had a girl suck dick while she was talking to her boyfriend on the phone at the same time. There was another girl who was cheating on her boyfriend with me. I asked her if she felt guilty for cheating. Guess what she said? She said “…my boyfriend ain’t shit! And its not cheating because you came onto me. If I came on to you then its cheating.”
Aaron,
I have an interesting story to share with you. The same girl who said we were “clicking” just admitted something. She told me that she just had an abortion three weeks ago. I knew she was a whore from the beginning. She’s actually looking to settle down with prince charming, and she thinks I make a good financial provider. I f*cked up by telling what I do for a living. I should have just told her I was either unemployed or in between jobs. This was the text message she sent me earlier to day.
“I have to be honest with you. I did have an abortion 3 weeks ago, so I’m not able to have sex for another 3 weeks. Remember when I said, I was ‘on my period’ well I’m just bleeding from the abortion.”
“Yeah, so that’s my problem right now. I’m not in the right head space right now. That’s why I just want to get to know you better. I’ve made a lot of bad decision and now I have to pay the consequences or my actions and it sucks.”
There is a good chance she wanted to trap Chad with a baby and it did not quite work out how she imagined. In any case, you dodged a bullet there. Why is your job an issue? I was under the impression that someone women partly chase after you because you have a good job. When looking for a provider, women also understand that they need to hook the guy with sex first.
I believe you. Maybe in America, women are that polluted. In Vietnam, it is not easy to figure them out either. You learn to read red flags along the way.
And I do believe that guys like you and Sleazy will detect these signs very fast. As for me, in my world, I can detect immediately if a girl is lying or not. Like “Oh I just want to have an experienced guy because I am inexperienced.” And it means the exact opposite. What makes me wonder is why in the West these signs are so obvious and into-your-face, whereas in the East, it is much more subtle. Andrew Tate once said he was completely taken aback when all these girls have absolutely no shame.
Still, I do wonder why you keep running into these women all the times.
I remember that there was once a girl, attractive, with a child, kept standing next to me wherever I went. And I was, at that time, not knowing so much about American society, still wonder why she had no husbands. I late realised that I could talk to her and even invited myself into her car and saw where it would went. But then I was shopping for my family dinner and decided to just let it go.
There is still feminity there. I can feel her pains because no women can be indifferent to abortions, and if she has many abortions, well…she could be very…indifferent. I don’t know why she still wants to sleep with a new guy, and it is probably a mercy from you to not add another layer to her misery. And yes, you are right, “a lot of bad decisions” may mean she might have had sex with quite many men before this abortion.
Poor girl, probably from a broken home, with broken boyfriends, in a broken country, and with a broken future.
What can we do, though?
So, you are right to just let her go.
Well this is interesting. I think when women talk about “responsibility”, it is incomprehensible to men. Because men are leaders and are supposed to lead. If she attacks you in nightclub and kissed you aggressively, it is still your responsibility because you allow it to happen. If you “misleads” her because she is drunk and you take her home, it still your “responsibility” because you are the one who takes action because you could refuse to do so. So to women, you allow all that to happen, it is your “responsibility”.
To us, responsibility is when you are the owner of your own actions, to them, it is your ability to make a decision “on their behalf”.
Chris,
I wont pretend that I know Southern states in America, but this may help:
https://web.archive.org/web/20110208020122/http://www.realassanova.com/2011/02/country-women-are-just-better.html
I remember very well that you said that you liked country music. But even there if a woman still….sucks your carrot while on the phone then I have nothing else to say.
Aaron,
“Why is your job an issue? I was under the impression that someone women partly chase after you because you have a good job.”
It’s not that I have an issue with my job. I’m actually proud of it. It pays well, but when it comes to dating, I personally do not like to be seen as a financial provider and have them fall in love with my paycheck. It’s uncommon that women ask what I do for a living. The majority of women I’ve met never inquired about my occupation. Occasionally I will get a few women who do ask about my occupation, but I will give them the run-around. A woman who is interested in me as a financial provider strikes me as “fake”. I would not be able to take her serious compared to a woman who is interested in my looks. Plus, there’s a lot of discord in relationships/dating when a woman is not physically attracted to man, and is only pursuing him for his financial resources.
I’m not against women who value financial stability, but if she if attracted to me then I have no problem disclosing that information. Lastly, I personally do not like to spend money on women. I’m really cheap when it comes to women, and I push for 50/50. I rather spend my money on a nice vacation or donate my money to your blog.
“…but when it comes to dating…”
In the context of dating women are generally hoping to find a guy to be their boyfriend etc. In this case it’s not unreasonable for a a chick to screen by looks first and career second, and if she has any sense she will want to make sure the guy is stable enough to shack up with. I don’t see the problem personally, especially if you’re being honest about just wanting to hook up and not leading her on. If that’s the case then I don’t know why she would care about your job, unless she was hoping to change your mind with her amazing bj skills or whatever later down the road.
He is afraid of commitment and does not trust women.
@Chris,
Let me write this, in a more constructive way, with my imagination about Sleazy and Sleazy Gal so you can imagine how it is like to be loved by a woman.
I strongly believe that Sleazy Gal will stay with him for the rest of his life, and be with him through tough and trough times, because that is what he is going through right now. They make enough to lead a happy life together, and she does not press him to earn more.
Yet on a weekend and or on any spontaneous day of the week, he has no problem of taking her to a not-upscale restaurant, he would trace his fingers through the menus, asking his wife what she likes before deciding for himself. They then have a dinner as usual, and eventually he foots the bill as always, and even pay the tips.
On his way back home, Sleazy Gal asks to buy for Sleazy a cup of bubble tea, and they continue back home, in silence or talking about random stuffs.
Yet on another day, he has no problem standing besides her, guiding her hands through slices of tomatoes while whispering to her ears, and they have dinner.
Can you FEEL it?
Sleazy knows you better, you could ask him for what types of girls that fit your personality. You have enough money to give him.
But with your current mindset, it is impossible to find a decent girl who even wants to be your girlfriend just for some years.
@Chris:
https://www.youtube.com/shorts/-2Huj74iQlk
You are more experienced than me, can you tell me if these girls are fake? or real? My inexperienced self tells me that they are real.
Lesson for myself: They dress that way doesn’t mean they are slut. It is time to talk to them and see how they are. Interesting girl.
@Cuong Quoc Vu
“…can you tell me if these girls are fake? or real?”
She’s a fake annoying slut!
There are plenty of women like that in LA, Las Vegas, Newport Beach, San Diego, etc…
Here’s the thing Cuong – the more experience you have with whores, the more you’ll know which women have sexual experience. It is the inexperienced beta male who is often in the dark about a woman’s sexual history.
Being able to identify a woman’s sexual past is an invaluable skill a man can have. It keeps you from wasting your resources on whores who couldn’t care less about you. Just remember, the more a woman hates men the higher the body count.
Women in conservative states like Montana, Wyoming, Idaho, Nebraska etc… are different from liberal cities like San Francisco, New York, LA… I don’t have any personal experience dating country girls…but I could image they would be different on some level.
When he asked what they did for a living I immediately said, “nursing!” I had an er visit a couple of months ago. The nurse checked my blood pressure from the right arm even though she was on the left side of the bed. She leaned over and moved her right to right into my open hand. I was in no condition to be picking up chicks. Goddamn they are whores. The rest of the hospital stay consisted of squawking Filipino chicks. Made it tough to get sleep.
@Chris,
Hmmm, I will be thinking a bit more.
I will still talk to her though, asking her instagram or anything to see how her pictures reflect her life.
I don’t want to sound so “poetic”, but I do wonder if I were there, could I just ask her “How did she ever anesthesise her pain of being cheated?” That would be interesting to see her reaction.
@Cuong Quoc Vu
“I don’t want to sound so “poetic”, but I do wonder if I were there, could I just ask her “How did she ever anesthesise her pain of being cheated?” That would be interesting to see her reaction.”
She’s the cheater instead of being cheated. Pay attention to her facial expression and how she scratches her neck…
I did notice that she seemed indifferent to being cheated, and I just wonder why she was so…peaceful. I thought I might talk a bit more to see how she felt about it.
Another thing that I misheard was that “Don’t call me bitches”, and it was actually “Nurse, bitches”. I would walk away mid-sentence after hearing this.
This is an interesting statement. Do you think the reverse statement is also true?
The more a man hates women, the higher the body count.
@Cuong Quoc Vu
“Do you think the reverse statement is also true?
The more a man hates women, the higher the body count.”
I would say yes and no because you also have men who may not have sexual experience with women, and can still hate them because of all the rejection they have experienced. Getting rejected a lot by women can make you hate them.
Ok then that is true for women too. Because an ugly girl who has no men approach her may hate men for the lack of attention.
How women treat you base on income.
https://www.youtube.com/shorts/4oMoCZg88Ng
Sleazy, I have a comment waiting in moderation. If you find it OK, please allow it.
I just post this one here again because the conversation is interesting.
Well I think you have given me the missing piece of puzzle. Yes, I would do exactly the same as you did. I would walk away too.
Maybe in America, women have degenerated to that extent. But I do wonder why you keep encountering these women? Are you actively seeking them out? Are you avoiding to pursue women who would make you pursue longer? Permit me to make certain assumptions because I don’t know who you are.
As a comparison, I would be able to detect women lies immediately. When a girl said to me recently: “Oh I just want an experienced partner because I am not so experienced.” She means the exact opposite. She then turns to me and says: “I like intelligent guys”, that means she just tries to stroke my ego. If a girl says: “I have a few friends like that.”, it means “she is among them.” If a girl looks down and glances away when I says: “I don’t let materialistic women touch me and my family properties.”, it means she is indeed looking for those things. If a girl says: “I have stopped drinking quite a while ago.”, and I nudge her a little bit so she says: “But it is just a competition because I need to outdrink that girl.” It may very mean that there are other guys drinking with her as well, because in my experience, girls don’t drink with themselves, except in nightclubs or bars. Recently, I caught a girl who keeps rolling her eyes and searching for something until she says it, I frankly asks her: “Couldn’t you just say what is truly in your heart, what is your true belief”, because it sounds me to me like she just recites things she read somewhere online.
So what makes me wonder is why in the West, things are so blatantly obvious and direct. Here, in Vietnam, it can be a bit hard to detect because women play with subtleness. They say one thing and mean the other.
I think in America, you are dealing with many devils or a devil with many heads: materialism and sluttiness. Here in Vietnam, it is mostly materialism, but materialism has always existed throughout the age. So I guess our problems here are more traditional.
I have rescued your comment from the moderation queue.
Thank you, I am very grateful.
Stopped at a Jewish deli this morning. They’ve become self-aware: https://files.catbox.moe/a23a58.jpeg
This is an interesting find. Let me know when they offer the “shut it down!” special offer. On a more serious note, I see such supposedly self-deprecating humor as an attempt to ingratiate themselves with non-Jewish customers.
@Aaron Sleazy
@Chris
It dawns me yesterday I could have tried to have a one night stand with a girl, she told me she would leave at that time, and when she left, she asked if I would leave as well.
I have an agony to just let myself go. Is sleeping with many women affect your psyche and make your loyalty to your future long term partner? I am scared of sliding into something that is destructive.
My closest friend used to glance at one of our teachers and thought of having sex with her, even though she was a very traditional woman who has a husband already.
I am afraid my psyche will change and I will have improper thoughts about girls who are not sluts.
I don’t think your pair bonding as a man will be quite as affected by sleeping around as a woman’s, but to say that fucking lots of sluts has zero impact on the general male’s psyche is probably incorrect. Still though, you’d probably be doing yourself a favor to at least bang a few different chicks before settling down.
Thanks for your advice!
@Cuong Quoc Vu
“Is sleeping with many women affect your psyche and make your loyalty to your future long-term partner? I am scared of sliding into something that is destructive.”
No, it won’t affect your ability to pair bond. In fact, as you gain more sexual experience you will notice that the courtship has a relatively predictable behavioral pattern that it follows. You will be able to know what is going to happen before it happens. And your standards will also become higher.
Thank you, Chris!