I recently received a very long article request, which I decided to split into multiple parts in order to make it easier to read and discuss. I quote the original request and provide my answers right after each question.

The article request is related to your previous article you published called do sluts have more children.

1. You’ve discussed in the past that women who constantly bang dozens of guys often do it for validation. So, when a woman has bang 50, 80, or 100 guys or more, are they still banging for validation at this point, or is there something else going on? They are definitely not banging for pleasure.

I think that there are a lot of possible motivations. Some women indeed view banging random guys as some kind of competitive sport and compare their numbers with their friends, which is downright bizarre. In this case, validation is clearly a driving force because they believe that their value is defined by how many men have fucked them. The woman in the post, “A Young Slut’s Diary” is a good example of this kind of behavior.

I have also encountered women with much deeper psychological issues. They very quickly put out and because their guys rarely stick around, they rack up shockingly high numbers. Women who grew up with single mothers seem to be at an elevated risk for this kind of behavior. They simply emulate the lifestyle of her mother who brings home random dudes to temporarily leech off from and this is simply all they know. Some of those women become sexually active basically the moment they get their first period. Those are probably the saddest women of all.

There is also a difference between overt and covert sluts. Some women boast about how many guys they have fucked. Within minutes, they drop one-liners such as that they suck dick so well that they can make any man blow a load within one or two minutes if they want to, or that no man ever refused them. One woman told me that she has had sex with over a hundred guys and that she is therefore “really good in bed”. I was so disgusted by this that I got up and walked off. In my view, those women are trashy because, due to a well-justified double standard, high counts in women are off putting for men.

Covert sluts, on the other hand, may hint at a high partner count or make a casual remark, e.g. while parting, she might say that you were “the best guy she had this month”. Once chick told me afterwards that I was her third guy that day and that she had travelled to Berlin to “fuck as many guys as she can”, but with others you may not really know how experienced they are as they don’t tell anybody and do their whoring around when the opportunity is right. Then there is a middle ground consisting of women who try to be discreet but fuck too many guys in the same wider social circle. People may call her a slut behind her back, though. Once word gets out that you banged her recently, it even turns into some kind of bonding experience for random guys. I once ended up talking with some regulars at a club and one of them asked me if I banged some chick who just walked past and who seemed to know both him and me. As it turned out, five or six of us had banged her in the last few months, which led to hilarious banter.

2. Are women’s sexual decision making motivated by a wide array of reason or just purely validation?

If we now talk about women in general, and not just sluts, I think that validation is just one of many reasons. Remember that some women are very calculating and also understand that they may act on their sexual impulses if given the opportunity. Thus, they will not put themselves into a position where they could end up fucking a guy they find sexually attractive but who may not be a good provider. I am sure that a lot of guys have encountered this. A good example are women who are happy to meet up with you during the day but never at night or who refuse to drink alcohol in the company of men.

If you imagine sex as barter, you can come up with a whole lot of reasons why a woman has sex with a man or merely dangles the prospect of sex in front of him. Maybe she wants to emotionally bind a man to her and have children with him, but perhaps she just wants food and shelter, or a few nice meals. Some may trade sex for validation, of course.

3. How much validation does a woman really need if she has banged 50, 80, or 100 guys or more? I’m guessing it gets worse once they start getting older because they know that they aren’t as attractive they once were.

I think that damaged women with such high lay counts will not really get over the problem of needing the validation of random men. When they are young, they very likely still have standards but as they get older, these standards often drop quite a bit. A lot of women in their 30s who have been living this lifestyle are exceedingly easy to have sex with. Whether you want to have sex with a woman who reeks of desperation is a different matter, though. In the end, her view on validation changes from banging hot guys to banging any guy at all. The Internet is full of stories of single women in their 30s who share their frustrations with men, of course as they pronounce how much of a catch they really are and that no man out there truly deserves her. Once they hit rock-bottom, they have unprotected one-night stands, trying to get pregnant by a guy whose name they may not even know.