Minimal Game: The No-Nonsense Guide to Getting Girls is the manual on seduction you have been waiting for! Instead of boring you with absurd theories or confusing you with contradicting advice, this book instead provides you with a solid foundation, no matter whether your goal is to become the next Don Juan or just to learn how to meet a few more women.
Minimal Game is primarily written with the average guy in mind who just wants to get laid more often, and without having to rely too much on luck. This is a fairly modest goal, but it is a realistic one that is within reach for pretty much any man.
Due to his vast experience with women, and by carefully analyzing the progress of his clients, Aaron Sleazy has identified what really counts when it comes to getting girls. Therefore, this book contains zero fluff and instead contains 100 % concrete and actionable advice.
If you don’t get laid, then work through Minimal Game. However, if you already get laid regularly, then still take the advice of this manual into account, because it will teach you how to be more successful in much less time. You will not only meet a greater number of women, but women you have more in common with. As a consequence, your relationships with women, even if they only last one night, will be more fulfilling.
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I always ask myself ‘how come these courses are advertised as ‘the ultimate super duper course for getting girls, the last you will ever need.” And yet they keep bringing them out all the time, and apparently the next one is the best, and the next one. And you watch them and it’s so complicated. And it does lead you to think you need to watch it all before you can do anything.
I read Minimal Game about a week ago in one sitting. I loved this book for it’s simpleness. And his advertising isn’t hyped, I believe it delivers what it says. After all this complication it’s half refreshing and half scary like ‘it can’t be this simple.’
I purchased this book Minimal Game a month ago and it’s the only hard copy PUA book I have. That it will stay because I no longer feel the need to get anymore. Minimal Game is the one stop place where I can learn the overall picture within 90 pages. This book is so good because it’s telling me stuff I already knew! Now, in no way is that a complaint of this being rehashed. Not in the least bit! But it’s telling me what I’ve noticed about how women act in the real world with my own two eyes outside of what pua material says.
My favourite thing about Minimal Game is how Sleazy emphasizes the importance of looks and passive value in a man’s success with meeting multiple women. This has always been a controversial idea in the community, since many PUA products advocate game being the ultimate solution to getting girls. However, in this book, Sleazy advocates the opposite. I love the line he uses, “There is no democracy in seduction.” In my own experience with seduction, I’m finding this to be the harsh truth. If you don’t focus on your looks and passive value, you’ll have a much harder time meeting new women. Sleazy tells reality how it is. Out of all the PUA products I’ve purchased, Minimal Game is the first product that really ever emphasizes looks and passive value to your success with women. From a marketing perspective, this would probably lose Sleazy a lot of potential money! Many PUA products project game as the “magic pill” to getting super hot women, no matter how you look. But IMO, Sleazy projects no magic pill solution. It’s that simple. That’s what sets this book apart from other products out there.
I am a university student in America. In high school, I never did well with girls. I ended up reading The Game at that time and began consuming lots of “advice” online from mASF and the general seduction community. It did not help much. About a year ago, I read Minimal Game. After reading this book and applying the major ideas, I have had much more success than in the past.
This book helped me to “leave” the seduction community and actually improve.
One of the things I really like about this book is that it stresses the importance of getting your “foundations” in good shape. Sleazy dedicates a whole section in the book to describing the fundamentals that one should work on before trying to get girls. These fundamentals include getting in good shape by working out, wearing nice clothing that fits the environment you approach women in, maintaining good hygiene, and other ways of “maximizing” your looks. In addition, Sleazy recommends getting some hobbies (ideally ones where you can meet women) and making friends with both guys and girls. No pick-up guide or book I have read before has ever discussed these basic foundations and admitted their importance. I can say from personal experience that working on my foundations helped me out much more than learning openers, negs, and other overly complicated pick-up artist ideas.
I also liked the section on “Simple Steps,” which clearly lays out Sleazy’s minimalist process for approaching a girl, escalating, and ultimately closing the deal. Throughout this section, and the rest of the book, Sleazy emphasizes the point that the girl must be attracted to you from the beginning. He also clearly lays out ways to save time, by dropping girls that are uninterested. To some this section may seem overly simplistic, but for someone who has never been that good at this and has been led astray by community advice, this section is highly practical and beneficial.
I wish that I had been given this book a long time ago, and I am very glad that I found it. There are still some things that the book left unanswered for me and some things I’ve noticed in my personal experience that may slightly conflict with parts of the book, but, fortunately, Sleazy maintains a blog and a forum where he posts new material and is open to answering questions and fielding legitimate criticism.
PUAs say “be me, this personality works best to get 6 hos the fastest” and another PUA will say “be me, this personality works best to keep 6 hos the longest” and talk about something contradictory. Minimal Game is about the fundamental similarities between the two PUAs so that you go “wait a minute, these guys take care of their bodies to get more girls to look at them, they talk to girls that already seem to like them to raise their ratio, and they didn’t say anything stupid to make the girl tell them to fuck-off.”
I think if you reduce seduction to its bare bones, if you dissect everything PUAs do that successfully gets them bitches and lay it all out on the table, then match the correlations, that’s what Minimal Game is. It’s throwing away the things a guy did that no one else did to get him laid, and it’s throwing away the things that probably didn’t get him laid. Maybe there’s more things going on, but that’s for you-the-spectator to recognize and integrate.
Things have recently started to turn around very slowly thanks to abandoning PUA bullshit and instead going by the doctrine of Minimal Game. The weekend I read it, I nearly got laid one night (she flaked at the last minute despite saying she was DTF earlier), and then the next day met a girl who I nearly got into a relationship with (we had an amazing date and make-out followed by a lot of flaky bullshit.) After that, I had a number of close calls that came from having the guts to *gasp* touch a girl on the arm to indicate that I’m interested.
Read minimal game a few times and try to understand what it could do for your life! By reading it, i didnt feel bad about myself or pushed down, instead i got some hope for my own life and realized i have potential and can still improve.
In my opinion, there’s only a few “products” worth looking at, the main one being Aaron Sleazy’s “Minimal Game” (ignore the dodgy name -it’s good stuff!). It’s cheap, will help you get laid more and won’t turn you into a weirdo.
So I finished Minimal Game. I loved it. It just felt normal, as when I skimmed over things that are sold on “Love Systems”, they just seem to break it down TOO much in order to create more content… when getting girls is basic instinct.. and you hit on the core points. No bullshit, and getting the girls who want you, and avoiding the ones that’re just going to be a pain in the ass.
Aaron, I love your book Minimal Game. It simplifies all the BS out there and answers some simple questions that nobody ever talks about.
I just got back on my feet after a long term relationship. I read Minimal Game on Saturday and went out that night and had girls in the palm of my hand, and then again on monday night. Got laid both nights. Totally on fire. It helped so much to have “downloaded” your frame of mind. I am lucky enough to look like a model, but my game got all fucked up from other PUAs years ago.
been reading your blog for a minute Sleazy and bought your book. at the risk of sounding like a groupie ha (which I probably am lol) your concepts and mindset are just solid no bs.
be social, have a life, have a few hobbies, a job u like etc no complex routines and all that weird ass stuff….keep up the good work.
I finished your book about a week ago. I liked it a lot, Aaron. It’s a “realest” way of approaching game. I think a lot of these PUA gurus sell a dream that could never come true. You give nothin but the truth and I love that.
The Minimal Game idea of focusing on the girls who are actually interested in you (and then working on your life to become as interesting as possible) is about the best summary of the seduction process I can imagine.
My life turned way more positive and active after reading and implementing stuff from your book Minimal Game.
You don’t need any system to get laid. If you think you do, you are already going in the wrong direction. Most people just can’t get that. Read Aaron’s Minimal Game. If you didn’t like it or don’t ‘get’ it, read it again.
It is a quick read with Minimal fluff and dense, straight forward material. If you’ve become accustomed to PUA books such as Mystery Method, The Natural, or any other book you’ll find Minimal Game refreshing and different.
The book is a good book to give a read. It isn’t filled with bullshit words to fill up pages. Mr. Sleazy knows what he is talking about. I personally enjoy his theory on seduction being that seduction is not something that we learn, but connect with inside ourselves; gut/instinct. When you think, or, feel like kissing the girl that’s the time you should. I practiced this perfectly over my date Friday. At the park with the girl, talking on a bench. I got the desire to kiss the girl, and rather than contemplating the thought I went with it. I grabbed her scarf gently and pulled her in my direction slowly, checking for compliance, and after I saw no hesitation went ahead and did what was natural. Guys, this USED to be a huge sticking point for me on dates!
Overall, it’s worth the read, and Aaron has a honest approach to dating that I respect. He doesn’t layout “openers” or “lines” to use, and for some that may not be to their liking. However, he said, and I agree, that girls aren’t all identical. Yes, they have some similarities, but they are different. Finding a system of “openers” and “lines” that will work 90% of the time does not exist! Girls are different; some have no sex on the 1st date rules and others don’t. Enjoy the unpredictability of it.
Stop contemplating on it. Pick it up and give it a read; it’s not going to kill you.
Aaron I am a big fan of your work because your advice is down to earth and very practical. I read Minimal Game and I thought it was the guide that I had been looking for all along before I got into the whole PUA/seduction community BS. Your book was very easy to read and it didn’t downplay factors that are usually tossed aside by mainstream pickup such as looks, demographics, and expectations on closing rate from approaching women.
Get a copy of ‘Minimal Game’ as it really does simplify this whole process of picking up girls! It’s the most concise book I’ve ever read on the subject.
Minimal Game definitely helped, it gave a lot of great ideas of how to escalate with a natural sexual momentum, but it’ll also take some improvising and situational creativity on the reader’s part. I think a lot of guys that are used to reading step-by-step PUA material from things like DoubleYourDating’s Kissing Test picture themselves just standing/sitting there next to a girl. They’d feed her lines 1a then 1b and then she will be expected to automatically let you go to escalation 2 and then feed lines 2a then 2b and it becomes this completely unimprovised mechanical thing that has to go that way, and if anything is different than it is in the book, you did something wrong. Just because this is how Eben Pagan did this once with a girl and therefor that’s the only way to do it. So I appreciate that Minimal Game didn’t go down the road of techniques
I’ve had amazing success doing what you suggest on your blog, and in Minimal Game. Before I would just try to grind with every girl at the club, not letting rejection phase me. Danced with a lot of girls, but didn’t get
anywhere. Now I’ll wait for them to make eye or physical contact, then
approach. I usually dance with 3 girls at most on a night out, and have
probably around 50% chance of getting my dick wet, which is a considerable
advancement in my “game”.
This guide’s straight-forward and minimalist approach to the haunted land of PUA is the most natural you’ll ever feel when interacting with the opposite sex. Aaron Sleazy explains the roles between both sexes and the quickest way to achieve your goals in a natural manner. Reading Minimal Game will make you lose weight, because you’ll happily drop 90% of what you’ve been told about pickup from “gurus” and be ready to apply what you’ve learned within an hour. Drop the “Mystery” and get ready for all this to start making sense.
There are many useful concepts that could have been included in Minimal Game and are not, but this is in fact the greatest single asset of it. It might miss out some “nice to have” info but every single paragraph in the book is valuable – there is no filler whatsoever. This is great for defragging your brain and getting back to what actually matters with women. I cannot recommend highly enough.
What’s the gist of the book? Getting women minus all of the bullcrap that you’ve been fed by your seduction gurus. Not that nothing else works on women, but a lot of what is preached by various other gurus, is completely unnecessary.
What do I think about Minimal Game? I think that if I would have wrote another book, then that probably would have been it. I vouch for just about everything in it, and it even goes into further detail about some of the things that I have been preaching lately. In other words, if you like my stuff, then you’ll like Minimal Game.
Who isn’t this book for? It’s not for guys who are caught up in the PUA fantasy of waving magic wands and spending hours memorizing banter that is a waste of time. And that’s what I like about it. It’s to the point, and tells you the truth that gurus have been hiding in order to keep their students in the dark. In other words, it is the most honest book that I’ve read about picking-up women.
Just got the book today and skimmed over it. And from what i have seen so far it gives very straight forward and practical advice when it comes to getting the ladies. No gimmicks, no fluff. Guaranteed a lot of “K.I.S.S”ing, Keeping it simple, stupid. Great job!
I read your book twice through. Of all the pickup books I’ve read, Minimal Game is the best. Honestly I don’t think there was anything I disagreed with. The book stresses a couple fundamentals that almost all other pickup books miss or barely mention. The sections on environment and style are so important! In the last couple months I’ve been experiencing how much more success you have when you choose the right setting, have awesome style, and dress appropriately for that setting.
So many guys trying to pickup girls are focused on using game. These guys don’t have much success, and assume it was the line they used, the angle they approached from, or they weren’t sexual enough etc. When it was the fact their teeth are a little to yellow, they dressed like a slob, or they have nothing in common with the general crowd. You probabaly shouldn’t even try to learn game without having your fundamentals down.
I also liked the section where you spoke about having proper expectations for pickup. You tell it how it is, unlike PUA’s who claim to get nearly every girl they approach, or go 5 for 5. Those lies used to bother me because I compared my success to the lies of certain PUA gurus. I felt like I must be doing somethings very wrong, when I actually wasn’t doing to bad. I love how the book is so straight forward. Just about any guy who applied what they read in your book would have a lot more success with women!
Aaron says that this book is about the foundations of seduction, but the foundations you get with Minimal Game are so strong that you’ll get something from this book even if you were the reincarnation of Don Juan. Some topics are actually very advanced, so I’d say that this book really takes you all the way from virgin to (possibly, if you so desire) womanizer. Minimal Game gives you an entirely new outlook on dating. While you might have found it boring and repetitive before (maybe with Mystery Method – heck, Mystery himself said that he finds the “opening” phase boring), it will then become exciting and liberating. I’m not the kind of guy that likes to kiss and tell, but I can tell you that this book has changed my life already.
As most everybody in the scene knows, Aaron Sleazy is the real deal. He’s also one of the few people who have invested the tremendous amount of time and energy it takes to master game at an extremely high level. If you don’t have the time or the desire to exert the same humongous effort, this book is the perfect guide to the art of seduction: A “Pareto’s Principle of Pickup”, or how to get 80% of the results with 20% of the work.
Sleazy tells it how it is — he cleans up with community myths such as “looks don’t matter” and “anybody can have any girl”, but he also tells you what you can do to maximize your looks as well as your chances to get the type of girl you’re most attracted to. Chapter by chapter, he treats every fundamental aspect of pickup with the same approach:
(1) What are the causes of success as observed in the real world (as opposed to internet message boards)
(2) What is the simplest formula these causes can be boiled down to, and
(3) What is the most straightforward way to apply that formula.
Sleazy doesn’t promise that it won’t take any effort — but if you implement this book page by page, it would actually be an accomplishment in its own right not to get any results.
You can literally use this book as a reference manual, no matter how good you are. If you completely suck with the ladies, then read everything he has to say about the fundamentals, if you get interest, but don’t get laid, well, then he’s got plenty of great advice on that too, but also if you are looking for relationships, ONS, or “friends with benefits”: this book tells you everything you need to know about it. Read it, follow the advice, and get on with your life! It’s a fabulous book, it’s completely honest, and it will help you. It sure helped me.
The only alpha way to interact with women — straightforward and direct, none of this pussy-whipped timid indirect bullshit, which just encourages you to fear women!
I had no idea what to expect. Found a link to the book on a blog I read, bought it on a whim, then checked out the writer’s website. He’s a talented writer. He approached this subject in a refreshing, and importantly, useful way. Rather than beat around the bush, he went straight for what works. The book is the right size to learn quickly from and then go practice. Many good learnings. Enjoyed reading it!
Received the book on Monday, have read it twice by now. Still digesting the content. 🙂 I post this message for those in doubt whether to buy or not.
It’s impossible to regret time & money spent on Minimal Game. The content is challenging (at least for me it is), by which I mean it forces me to rethink and reconsider. Everything is very well outlined and structured by Mr Sleazy. Depending on your temprament, you may find Minimal Game inviting you to read between the lines quite often. Exactly there did I most benefit.
It will absolutely help me one hell of a lot in my sexlife. There’s little doubt it will do just as well for you, whatever holds you back from achieving your full potential now. Price is 10€, it’s worth at least 200. One read-through takes at most two hours of your time. It will save you hundreds. Minimal Game is A+++ recommended.
One word book-review: AMAZING! It’s like a good short story — there isn’t anything unimportant that distracts you from the original storyline.
I liked the book. It gave me some sense of normality, which I think a lot of people need, when doing something unusual. Written in calm and honest way that manual makes you believe it’s absolutely normal to invite girls home on first date and have sex with them, and makes you believe everybody does the same. You just didn’t know that. That it’s normal. That women want sex a lot, and that’s why in a lot of cases you don’t even need to use game so much. That some girls are desperate and lonely. And if they aren’t into it, probably they are not that interested in sexing you.
I think the mindset gained from that book could help a lot of guys, who feel like aliens trying to implement advice on moving things forward, which nobody else does (especially that quickly) and whose minds are fucked by a war of community advice and social conditioning. It gives you some sense of security and makes you forget stories of your friends who were dating girls for 6 months without sex. You’ll start suspecting they just lied to you and that they probably pulled her into bathroom 10 minutes after meeting her. The thought I liked the best was that “healthy women want a guy who is not afraid of being sexual. And why deal with unhealthy women.”
Seduction can be basically summed up in four words: Approach. Escalate. Isolate. Close. It’s a numbers game. If you’re an obese, socially awkward 40-year old, you’d probably need to approach a far higher number of women to find one that “hooks” compared to a 20 year old male model.
Minimal Game, as the author writes, is meant for guys who want to get laid with different women somewhat regularly. About half of the book concentrates on the things outside of seduction you should fix which should up your success rate. About 1/3 is on the actual process of seduction and the final bit is on what happens after a successful seduction and how to segue into a relationship if you are so inclined.
At less than $10, this is a steal compared to the plethora of pick-up “guru” ebooks out there. AFAIK, the price of PoD means that Aaron basically doesn’t make much money off of this — he’s not going to come up with an endless stream of products to empty your wallets, this is purely to help other men.
I received the book today and I read it tonight. Minimal and no-nonsense are indeed the perfect words to describe it. Minimal Game is a bit like the first Mode One book but even more succinct. This is down and dirty, practical advice, no ramblings about high value or the difference between direct or indirect or multi-threading if you run out of things to say. It’s almost as if he took all the questions which have been asked on this forum since I joined and answered them in some way, even if it is just a smidgeon of information at the end of a chapter. Every single one of them. He also manages to tread the minefield of Inner Game and make it real and very simple (he doesn’t call it Inner Game btw).
This is the kind of book I will read chapters from every now and then to get into the right mindset. But if you want a lot of information and like to think getting good is a painstakingly long process fraught with failures and flakes, you will not like this book.
This lean book of a little over 100 pages is quite simply awesome. It provides a straighforward structure for attracting woman that is entirely realistic. Aaron Sleazy doesn’t claim anything ridiculous such as “any man can pull any woman” in fact he states quite blatantly that no man, not even Brad Pitt can pull any woman. In short, he does not try to sell you any bs, rather he provides the elements to form a strong foundation for attracting “the fairer sex.”
You are a godsend! I’ll always promote to all people interested in pickup your book Minimal Game as being mandatory. Why? Because you gut out all of the marketing bullshit that tries to install feelings of insufficiency and doubt unless they but their product. Like this guy at […] that puts in is advertisements lines like: “The one mistake even the most experienced pickup artists in the world make”. This is like a doctor breaking someone’s leg in order to get them to pay him to fix them. Certain unenlightened Christians do this by telling people that they’re “fucked and going to hell if they don’t go to their church.” This is unethical and that’s why people like you are needed to unhypnotize people and bring them back to their senses. Your book has me saying “AMEN!” througout, because it’s things that I sensed were right and natural but society/advertisments hypnotized me to deny. ALL people trying to get into pick up should read your book so they’re armed against being fucked up by the unethincal things going on in the PUA community! Thank you!
Aaron reminds us that the fact that you’re here shows that you don’t have to read an overpriced book or attend a rip off `bootcamp’ and learn this complex pick up system in order to successfully interact with women. The fact that you’re alive shows that you are already and expert communicator to more than sufficiently positively interact with the opposite sex (since survival as an infant required that you communicate with your caregivers and without it you wouldn’t have survived). So Minimal Game is there to remind you of these truths so that you can get out of your head and back into life…back into The Game and just HAVE FUN!
He did this without streatching out the truth in multiple expensive volumes, videos and seminars but within one easy to read book less than 100 pages long! The relief and empowerment that you feel after reading Minmal Game will be more than a thousand times worth the very low ‘minimal’ price of the book because you’ll avoid having to spend thousands of dollars on products and trainings that will be much less efficient at telling you what Aaron does in 80 some pages. So if anything that I wrote sounded familiar to you then do yourself a favor and read this book (you don’t have to but it’s pretty darn good!)!
Minimal Game doesn’t contain any secrets. Its aim seems to be to give you the right attitudes, and those attitudes are rather unremarkable. Here’s a taste: Finding a single girl willing to have sex with you requires trying about 10 girls. Best case. Getting rejected doesn’t really say anything bad about you per se, it’s simply part of the process of getting laid. These are the sort of should-be-obvious facts MG doles out. The thing is, these facts weren’t obvious to me, and presumably they won’t be to you either since you are browsing reviews for a dating book.
This book doesn’t aim to get you “any girl you want” or get that special girl who’s out of your league. This book aims to set your attitudes and basic convictions on dating straight, and I’ll say that it succeeds in doing so. My sex life is getting better pretty fast and it’s probably due to this book, although my sample time is pretty short.
Like most dating material it’s easy to suspect it’s a fraud. I believed Sleazy because the book made plausible claims and didn’t include fifty obviously unnecessary DVD’s. In the end what decided the matter was that I didn’t stand to loose much; where I come from this book’s cheaper than a cover charge.
I’m a big believer in TAKING ACTION and not filling your head with endless amounts of theory (aka bullshit) which prevents you from getting laid/taking action. At the same time, I think Sleazy’s book is very good because its short, to the point and written for the ‘average guy’ , who “wants to learn how to get laid somewhat regularly, and not necessarily for those who feel destined to become modern Casanovas.” If you fall in that category or if you have a lot of LEGITIMATE real-time experience but not much results you should check this book out. Unlike 90% of the PU books out there– this one definitely CANNOT HURT! haha, it’s good. keep it simple!!
I am sure you are already getting a lot of love, just thought I would let you know your book Minimal Game was great. Although I had many of the basics down it really helped me with target selection and cutting down time with girls in the “grey zone” for ones which were instantly receptive. Good book, much thanks.
I have finished reading Minimal Game more than a couple of times, so here is my short ‘minimal’ review! ‘Minimal Game’ gives a few blunt pointers to guys who have the intention to get laid once in a while and have satisfying relationships with women with minimum effort. Having said that, Sleazy’s writing is deeply grounded in reality, hence it should come as a surprise to lot of guys that even 5 new girls in a year is a very good result. However if you are a guy having 0 girls at the moment, you will still have lofty aims of banging 40 new women a year. Guys with sufficient field experience should however will know 5 girls a year in itself is enough to keep you busy, when you have a full time job, few friends, and an engaging hobby.
The highlight of the book is its strong focus on fundamentals. Fixing your looks, choosing a proper environment and just being a normal guy who can spot receptive women is something that guys overlook when they get lost in the sea of techniques, routines that for the most part leave them with no results for years. Sleazy’s writing style is simple, and he addresses the process from basics to simple steps of initiating interaction to progressing to relationships in this small but precise guide in a clearly understandable style stripped of all Disney elements. This book should be of immense help to guys who appreaciate the normal common sense approach to seducing women than blindly following dogmas that has a poor success rate.
A big thanks to Sleazy for writing Minimal Game. Your writings in masf and elsewhere, your books and of course Minimal Game has been quite influential in my love life.
Your work really is needed. Seriously, I’ve been dumb and fell victim marketing hype and thought that i had to buy all these thousands of dollars worth of products and trainings to even be around women. I hypnotized myself to act awkward “because i didn’t master their system yet”. I’m 34 and am yet to date women. However, learning the obvious from places like your book Minimal Game points out the truth that we’re all here and most people in the past did NOT buy and master thousands of routines and patterns or whatever.
I’ve got to work on my OCD issues but your book helps me along the way noticing that humans natively know how to function and socialize as long as they pay attention to what’s going on around them. It’s marketing hype that tries to trick people otherwise. Guys don’t hook up with women like romance movies or diamond jewelry commercials want us to believe just like fights don’t happen in real life like they do in action films. However, that’s obvious in figuring that out about combat but not so obvious about women for a lot of guys.
Thanks for reminding us of this.
Minimal Game really succinctly covers the fundamentals of seduction about being an attractive guy, geared more towards guys who just want to bang more girls, as opposed to guys who want to make their entire life about banging girls. I’ve met more than a couple guys who became totally immersed in mainstream PUA community crap, and they do not end up as all-around awesome guys. They end up as creeps, who underperform relative to their looks and occasionally get lucky on sheer numbers.
Reading the book reminded myself of some obvious things, that I learned and forgot in my history of following Sleazy’s writings. I will probably re-read it every time I come back from a hiatus where I have to reboot my sex-life after spending some time in other areas of personal development. I do a similar exercise with Razorjack’s mASF archives, but this is way, way, way more succinct. This is not a book about routines or gimmicks. It’s about how to have the behaviors, fashion, and lifestyle of an attractive guy where women are open to meeting you or even approaching you themselves.
Aaron keeps everything plain and simple. First, he disproves some common harmful ideas guys may have about dating, women, and sex. Some of those ideas are common in society (e.g finding the one) and in the pickup industry (if you don’t have sex you’re a loser, with good game alone you can score hotties, etc). Then he gives you practical advice on what you need to do to become successful. It covers how to maximize your chances before meeting women, how to meet more women, how to find out quickly if she’s interested, how to move things forward, how to overcome common barriers, and relationships. I highly recommend this book. Especially, if you’re someone who is extremely confused and frustrated about all the nonsensical ideas that you had the misfortune of reading.
Minimal Game: The No-Nonsense Guide to Getting Girls is a beginner’s guide for men wishing to learn efficient ways to meet and begin sexual relationships with women. It assumes no prior knowledge of seduction. In fact, it assumes the reader has very little knowledge of many aspects of the social realm, such as basic fashion and common-sense views regarding women and relationships. This is a good thing in my opinion, as many guys who find the seduction community really do have limited knowledge of such things which more socially-savvy people take for granted. This level of hand-holding is often required yet seldom provided.
Minimal Game is written entirely from the perspective of a single man who has had a lot of experience with women. Therefore the book is almost entirely based on observation and the simple rules Sleazy has learned. By only writing about what he has observed, Sleazy avoids indulgences such as attempting to interpret women’s psychology, or trying to explain behaviour of either sex by invoking biological theories or evolutionary psychology. This will be a breath of fresh air for many readers who are used to would-be Charles Darwins offering pages upon pages of conjecture.
Minimal Game is simply the best start-up guide to seduction I have ever read. If I ever have a son, he will one day become the proud recipient of my by-then dusty and tattered copy of Minimal Game.
I found myself nodding in agreement at most of what he says and advocates. I am a big fan of the no frills, keep it simple stupid approach to seduction, and Sleazy does it right. His focus is on building yourself up and developing a solid foundation through baby steps, managed expectations, and experience. How to focus your energy on interested and open women. How to escalate sexual tension, why you need to get sexual as early as possible. All things I agree with.
Written as it is for beginners, Minimal Game is good shit. If I was a newbie, this would be a book I would want handed to me, and even reading it now it helped to refocus some things for me and highlight some things I have lazily gotten away from. Sleazy rightly keeps the scope of his book to foundational stuff, and you won’t have your head swimming with hundreds of steps and lines and routines. He writes it all in simple language with concepts that are easy to grasp, with knowledge you can use right away. I know I’ve said simple and minimal a lot during this review, but really, that’s what his stuff is. And that’s a good thing.
I have been disappointed in just about every seduction book I have ever read. False information, over-complication, and over priced. Sleazy shows us the truth: The seduction process is simple, and natural. He teaches that memorizing elaborate routines, learning magic tricks, stand up comedy routines, or anything else of the sort is not necessary, nor is wearing outlandish jewelry, shirts, or hats. Instead, he does provide relevant, pertinent truths to change men’s limiting beliefs. He also provides simple strategies for average guys to get women. Minimal Game extensively discusses how guys can realistically improve their odds, and tells men how they can maximize their appeal, and how they should go about meeting women; taking their individual strengths, weaknesses, and preferences into account.
The whole book is very practical and gives concrete advice, which is a stark contrast to the available dating literature which all-too often offers little else besides pseudo-explanations based on evolutionary psychology and vague advice. Minimal Game and its treatment of seduction is absolutely not like that. It reminded me of a famous Einstein quote: “Make everything as simple as possible, but not simpler.” It is definitely worth buying!
I’ve read the following books over the past 4 months: ‘Attraction Isn’t A Choice'(good info), ‘How To Have Sex With Beautiful Women'(great info), ‘The Manual'(great info), and this one, ‘Minimal Game’. Sleazy’s approach is very similar to ‘The Manual’ approach of immediately escalating sexually with women after one meets them instead of doing the traditional dating game first routine. He unfortunately doesn’t really get into how effective a man’s body language can be in attracting women, so I’d strongly recommend getting The Manual as well.
The gist of this book is that it’s important to clean up your looks as much as possible (whiten your teeth, workout, etc.), learn about personal style (manner of dress, haircut,etc.), find women that show some sign of interest (eye contact or a positive response to your opener) and then escalate (gentle touches, invading her space, strong eye contact)to make it clear that you want her sexually and see how she responds.
He recommends getting sexual as early as possible even if you’re looking for a long-term relationship since it’s the best way to see what the real woman is like (he talks about taking a girl on a date before sex and watching her order only a salad at dinner as an example of how phony pre-sex dating really is) and also because it’s best to find out early if she’s your type in the sack.
I loved the book and highly recommend it.
I remember when I used to try and do stuff that I read in some book lol. Never worked, as soon as I realised that seduction should be straight forward and just kept things simple and kept texts just to arrange to meet girls and any banter I would just do on the date I actually got laid a lot more with much less effort. They don’t tell you that in many ebooks apart from Aaron Sleazy’s Minimal Game.
-Lionheart, London Seduction Society
I’ve been following Aaron Sleazy for two or three years now. I used to eagerly await his latest report of his exploits in the night life of Berlin or London, and read his collection of adventures, Sleazy Stories, in one sitting. While his previous book retells his experiences, often in a somewhat dry but quite funny way, the scope of that book didn’t leave much room to explain the reasoning behind his actions.
I was thus pleased to hear that he was working on a book on the foundations of success with women. As soon as he had announced the book on his blog, I emailed him and asked him whether he’d sell me a singed copy of it, and luckily he did! So, having read through this book in two days, and having gone out two days in a row to meet women (went to a club once, browsed a bookstore, checked some coffee shops the other day), I can tell you that it is everything (and more!) I ever hoped it would be.
I’ve read all the well-known seduction books, like David DeAngelo’s Double Your Dating, The Mystery Method, The Game, and probably half a dozen others. They all left me somewhat disappointing. Those authors were often rambling on about trivial details, tried their hand on evolutionary psychology but not without making one logical error after another, or just tried to sell their other services. Mystery Method is so complicated (IOI, SOI, LMR, A3, AMOG, AI, ASD, BHRR — WTF?) that you can’t even understand it without attending a workshop for a few grand, and I don’t think that’s worth it because the method seems to be based on some rather odd premises.
But anyway, what was refreshing about Aaron Sleazy’s reports of his conquests is mirrored in Minimal Game: a complete no-nonsense attitude. He just tells you how it is. He tells you how to have success and if you don’t, he tells you why you didn’t get the girl. However, unlike the preachers of “game”, he dares to say what they all are afraid to concede: that you just can’t get any girl out there. This is a revolutionary message all by itself, given the literature in this field.
The content of this book follows a logical order. First, he tells you some “honest truth”, which is especially useful if you believe Hollywood fantasies about meeting women. He also talks about the woman’s perspective in the dating process (a novelty as well!). In a long and detailed chapter, he analyses all external factors like age, money, looks, your location, social skills, conversational skills. All of this is detailed, and will have many surprises for you if you used to follow Mystery and others. Looking at my past relationships, I can definitely relate to what Aaron Sleazy writes in this chapter, and if you still believe that looks don’t matter, then you are either a model or still don’t get laid. 😉 Sleazy gives you a ton of great tips on how to improve your looks, and thus have more success with the girls. Some is very subtle and I haven’t read it anywhere else before.
However, the real fun starts afterwards, when he talks about seduction, and about under which circumstances women are receptive to advances, and to whom. Again, it’s all very clearly presented, and I can now see that I was simply often pursuing women that weren’t interested. While other “gurus” tell you that you can always make it work, Sleazy tells you, “Look, if x, y, z is the case then she’s not interested. Just go after some other woman instead!” I found this view refreshing and incredibly liberating, because now I am not beating myself up when I don’t get with a particular girl. Mystery would tell you that your stories were not emotional enough or whatever else, but that judgment wouldn’t really tell you anything or would it?
One chapter deals with scenarios in which you can meet women, covering everything from social circle, grocery stores, malls, to bars and clubs. He gives specific pointers and tells you what to avoid. I found this chapter particularly helpful because he literally talks you through the entire process: where to meet them, what to say, getting the number, calling her up, and the date as well. He covers one-night stands too, but that’s something that’s out of my comfort zone. However, he gives some interesting tips which I’m sure I’ll try next weekend when I’m out.
Unusual for books of this category are his elaborations on “roadblocks” and “factors for success”. Chances are that if you don’t get laid, then you are doing something wrong he describes in there. I was laughing out loud when I was going through a section in which he describes that many men go after women who have absolutely no interest in them sexually, but still like the attention they get. This has happened to me a coupe of times as well, but I just wasn’t realizing it. Like, when I was talking to a woman I met at a fundraiser who listened to my stories for two hours but didn’t like my idea of meeting up for coffee some other time. Now I know what to look for in an interaction early on so that I won’t waste another two hours on a woman that doesn’t even want me. Great stuff!
Before parting from the reader, Aaron Sleazy gives you an overview on relationships. How to pick the right girls, how to keep them around, etc. His elaborations of “friends with benefits” were especially juicy. I may try that as well. A nice touch of the book is that he’s added an epilogue to it. I found it touching as it almost was as if a teacher would bid you farewell and let you now make your own experiences. I really think he’s covered everything you need to know about seduction.
Phew.. I didn’t mean to write that much. Anyway, the question is, “Does this book deliver?” Yes, totally!! It’s a quick read, it’s full of relevant stuff, a lot of which I haven’t read anywhere else, and it’s written in a way that you can actually apply it, and this is a quality I didn’t find in many other books. Besides, it’s very affordable, so that’s nice of him as well, that he doesn’t want to rip us off but instead choses a price everyone can afford.
Aaron says that this book is about the “foundations”, but the foundations you get with Minimal Game are so strong that you’ll get something from this book even if you were the reincarnation of Don Juan. Some topics are actually very advanced, so I’d say that this book really takes you all the way from virgin to (possibly, if you so desire) womanizer. Minimal Game gives you an entirely new outlook on dating. While you might have found it boring and repetitive before (maybe with Mystery Method – heck, Mystery himself said that he finds the “opening” phase boring), it will then become exciting and liberating.
I’m not the kind of guy that likes to kiss and tell, but I can tell you that this book has changed my life already. 🙂
Minimal Game is really quite unique among seduction books. First, it doesn’t contain any bizarre theories like evolutionary psychology but just practical advice, based on the experience of its author. Second, you get the feeling that every sentence it there for a reason. There is absolutely no fluff in this book, and this is a quality I really appreciate. It’s also written very clearly and easily understandable (and that’s something I haven’t seen in other books on this topic yet).
My story is that my “foundations” are quite good, getting make outs and phone numbers, but had problems capitalizing on the opportunities I get, especially when it comes to dates. Thankfully this book has been the answer to my problems. Aaron Sleazy describes how to plan the date in advance, how to set it up, and how to make sure that there won’t be any nasty surprises. He really gives you clear step-by-step outlines. All you have to do is grow a pair and follow them. (By the way, Sleazy tells you also how to grow a pair, if this is your problem. ;))
You can literally use this book as a reference manual, no matter how good you are. If you completely suck with the ladies, then read everything he has to say about the fundamentals, if you get interest, but don’t get laid, well, then he’s got plenty of great advice on that too, but also if you are looking for relationships, ONS, or “friends with benefits”: this book tells you everything you need to know about it. Read it, follow the advice, and get on with your life!
It’s a fabulous book, it’s completely honest, and it will help you. It sure helped me.
Since I got started to get my life with women handled in 2004, I’ve experienced and excessively practiced my fair share of “professional dating advice”… given by “gurus”, sold by “companies”, adhered to by “devotees”. I traveled the world several times to learn and to practice even in countries, where I didn’t speak the language and no one really spoke English, simply for challenging myself to the max.
And in turn I’ve had amazing encounters, thrown myself right into difficult and unforseeable interactions and learned a lot about myself and women in turn. During the course of those years it gradually creeped upon me though, that most of the “love systems” and dating models perpetuated by those former teachers of mine were rather obstacles, than actual help and that the most fulfilling encounters with women, that I had enjoyed, had followed entirely different rules, which were also rather simple and not as preposterously overcomplicated.
Fortunately, Sleazy’s elegant, effective and (unlike the output of most “dating gurus”) charmingly intelligent book details it all. Had I stumbled upon it 8 years ago, it would have spared me some hard learning curves and frustrating experiences, and preventing them from culminating into lots of useless self-doubt. (But I do enjoy the memory of those past experiences, therefore it’s all OK the way it happened. 😉
Within the book there is actually all the knowledge you’d need to get you started and have you succeed in the world out there (whatever the actual idea of “success with women” means to you individually). I can thoroughly recommend it to beginners, as well as to the seasoned practitioner alike. It’s probably the next best thing to having a mentor, who’d guide you through the steps of self-development.
This most likely is one of the very few solid and useful books on the subject of getting girls as authentically and as efficiently (i.e. ultimately as effortlessly), as possible.. Oh – and did I mention, that I really enjoyed, how genuinely intelligent, cool and erudite a person the author of this book comes across?
Of all the glut of “pickup” books out there, this one stands out as one of the good ones. It stands out because he’s being real. He’s giving you real advice that will actually work for you in the real world with real women. The guy has obviously been there and done that.
Aaron doesn’t sugar coat things or try to blow sunshine, which is refreshing. Can you read this book and have sex any girl you meet? Hell no! He tells you that flat out. Do looks matter? Hell yes they do! So you’d better maximize what you got. Not what most guys want to hear or what most gurus will tell you, but it’s reality. Deal with it! How do you get out of the friends-zone? Don’t bother, it’s a waste of time. He’s not selling you snake oil, he’s telling you what’s up.
Most pickup books are selling you warmed over dating advice that will get you nowhere. Others are regurgitating Mystery Method and things they’ve read on message boards. Aaron just tells it like it is, warts and all.
I appreciate that it’s a quick read, there’s no reason to over complicate things with women. Men and women have been getting together for eons, it shouldn’t take 300 pages to explain how to get laid. Aaron is entertaining and to the point.
Let’s face it, with self publishing, the bar for a good book on women has been set ridiculously low. There’s SO MUCH crap out there there right now begging for you to waste your money and time. “Minimal Game” lives up to a much higher standard.
Is this the be all end all of pickup advice? Of course not, but there’s plenty of good advice in there that will get you headed in the right direction.
If you’re looking for an actual useful book about getting girls, look no further, because you found it. Minimal Game shows the average Joe how he can establish a satisfactory sex and/or love life by using his common sense and focusing on what really matters in the mating arena and not some pseudo scientific rubbish, that if you’re lucky has little to no effect on your success rate and if your not so lucky even has a large negative effect on your success rate.
The only thing Aaron Sleazy may have in common with the shady guys from the PUA-Community is probably his a little bit lurid “artist name”. But don’t let it mislead you:
Sleazy is not a professional dating or life coach (let alone a Pick Up Guru) and he does not write about getting girls for a living. He does not run boot camps, he does not give seminars and he does not hold motivational speeches. And he surely does not sell you hopelessly overpriced DVD-Sets and gets you started on nonsense like NLP and the like. He has published two free eBooks, in which he does an excellent job in debunking the PUA community for the scam that it is and also gives some general and even some very concrete advice on efficient mating strategies for straight men in western societies of today.
In his writings he also engages in interesting topics like female self sabotage in the mating market and western societies often negative influence on the dynamics between the two sexes, without getting preachy or bigoted at all. He furthermore maintains a high quality forum, where you can register at no charge and can get detailed feedback about your personal situation and questions by posting there.
But back to MG: Why should you buy it?
Because it proposes goals, that might seem humble compared to the goals the PUA “gurus” propose, but that are actually in the reach of Joe Average. And achieving these goals will most likely be enough to do away with most of your frustration associated with the whole love-and-sex-complex once and for all.
Reading Minimal Game will probably not turn you into a second Don Juan, but if you really take the advice it gives to heart and invest some reasonable amount of time and effort in following this advice, it will most likely turn you into someone, who does just not care about becoming a second Don Juan anymore.
You will by then already have a fulfilling love live, even if you might not have twelve 20-year old friends with benefits that are all 11s on the so called hot babe scale from 1 to 10 and if you don’t get a three-way with super models twice every week 😉
In his free eBook “Debunking the Seduction Community” Sleazy puts it this way: “If you have a life outside of pick-up, a demanding job, one hobby, some friends, and thus you only go out once or twice a month, then you are doing really great if you get five girls a year. This number will probably be enough to keep you busy anyway. Ten girls a year is great and more than most guys — including
many professional dating coaches — can hope to achieve. Also, picking up girls is for most men just a phase they are going through. No matter how good you are, it really gets boring after a while.“ (To avoid confusion; please keep in mind, that those girls don’t have to be just one night-stands, but can also be so called friends with benefits. So getting 5 girls a year does not mean only getting laid five times a year. Furthermore: If you do want to become a Player or even are one, MG might still be worth reading, because you might find out, that and how you could become more efficient.)
A final warning: MG does not contain a magic pill and Sleazy does not engage in sugar coating. Depending on your starting position (i.e. if it’s below average), your development might take quite some time and effort. And you might have to work on your self and areas of your life that are not directly related to the mating arena first, before you really can get started with flirting. Sleazy even explicitly encourages you to take as much time as you need and work on what he calls foundations. If those are not sorted, there is no use in throwing yourself in the mating arena, because the odds will be set up very much against you.
Sleazy points out the important role your looks play (this is always denied by the PUA crowd) and demonstrates how you can efficiently improve your physical appearance and shows, that it is easier for Joe Average than you might think, to turn himself into one of the “cool kids”.
Sleazy furthermore points out the importance of positioning yourself in a favourable way in the mating market and in finding your own personal social niche, which will allow you to encounter much more receptive women than you do probably right now. He lays down in detail how to manage this. Once you have those foundations settled and found your niche, you will probably notice, that the prospect of flirting and mating will appear much more natural, way less intimidating and very feasible for you. So chin up!
Sleazy draws detailed pictures of different scenarios and gives concrete advice in how to turn a man-woman-interaction into something romantic and/or sexual. Unlike the PUA scammers he cares about concrete circumstances, sub cultures and social context, so his writings are not the least bit spongy.
And probably most importantly, he points out the necessity to test the waters, i.e. to not approach women completely indiscriminately, but to elicit as soon as possible in a socially accepted non-creepy manner which women are how much receptive towards and interested in you.
He advises you to focus only on the receptive ones and shows useful and concrete, but still simple techniques, which will help you to recognize those women early after (and maybe even before) meeting them and help you to tell the difference between minor token resistance and genuine and insurmountable disinterest. You will probably develop a good intuition after some time practising.
On of the best books I’ve come across so far and certainly by far the best one about getting girls!