When my grandfather married, his wife was 19. He was almost 50. It was an obvious deal, consisting of trading youth for resources, and it was seen as perfectly okay back then. Of course, feminists fume when they hear stories like that. It bothers them beyond belief that the prime resource women bring to the table is one with a very limited shelf life. As a guy, though, your age does not matter so much as long as you don’t fuck up things too badly. Even if you don’t have a stellar career, ten to fifteen years of consistent work and socking away money put you so far ahead of the competition it’s not even funny.
I know a few guys who just had to have a Mercedes-Benz or a BMW as their first car. Now, if you are from a really well-off family, this may not be much of an issue, but if you are barely middle class, then keeping up with the Joneses this way is completely stupid. A guy I know spent the equivalent of a downpayment for a nice apartment on a car and its maintenance in his 20s. He’s no longer in his 20s, but because of that utter stupidity and a bit of bad luck he’s still living at home. It was just money down the drain. If your choice is between an expensive car or an apartment, the latter is probably the much better option. I can’t quite fathom where that kind of fiscal irresponsibility even comes from. Then again, among Western women such is almost expected, but as a guy?
Both men and women are in a race with members of their own sex. With women, the race is against the clock as they need to trade their youth and fertility while they can. If they fuck up, let’s say because Feminism 101 at Moron U went to their head, they are done. It’s quite tragic. They end up being 30, with no useful skill and no prospect of getting married. But, hey, maybe scissoring with hags while a bunch of cats complain about lack of food isn’t all that bad? (I’m quite certain it is as shitty as it sounds.) If their life isn’t set on the right path at age 25, maybe 30, it’s fucking game over. It seems God has a particularly insidious punishment in store for women who disregard their biological role: a long, long life of misery. Just think about it: they fuck up their life in their 20s and then they still have a good 60 or more years to make it through.
On the other hand, this is how it works with guys: your life gets started at an age where the average woman is already on a downhill slope. Even if you need a few more years to get your life off the ground, all is not lost. If you mess up your twenties, you’ll get another chance in your thirties. Heck, even your early 40s are not too late to turn things around, albeit the deck is getting stacked against you fast. Yet, as long as you manage to gather resources, you will be attractive to at least some women. Of course, the question is whether you want to share what you have worked for so hard. Yet, the option is there. If you play your cards right, you are on easy street from your early 30s onward.
Money and resources are one part of the equation. Your physical fitness is another. Quite some time ago I made the offhand remark that as a guy, given a bit of luck and the right circumstances, you could probably live some resemblance of a player lifestyle until you are in your mid-50s. No, you likely won’t be able to bang the hot 18 year-olds from the club, but among the loose single moms you’d be hugely in demand. I remembered having thought about that scenario when I came across a picture from an old Harrison Ford movie, What Lies Beneath, which was released in 2000. The main roles are played by Harrison Ford (58) and Michele Pfeiffer (42). Michelle Pfeiffer is, by all means, a very attractive Western woman. Yet, at 42 her looks have clearly started to fade. Now compare this to Harrison Ford who, at an age of almost 60, was deemed sexy enough to be shown on screen half-naked:
Michelle Pfeiffer, on the other hand, was not allowed to show her aging body. Quite frankly, it would not have looked out of place if you had put a 30-year-old woman next to Harrison Ford in that scene.
The takeaway is that if you intend to settle down, you should aim for a woman significantly younger than you. She’ll catch up with you anyway. Just imagine what would happen if you, say, as a 42-year old, married a 38-year old woman. Even at the time of marriage, she would look significantly older than you. Wait what happens once she hits menopause!
But you can always rent them though… If you have the resources.
– Bang the milfs for free
– Sponsor a couple of students on the side
Get the best of both worlds even in your 50s ^_^
but sleazy… the “future is female” !!! No need for a man (after all… fish bicycle metaphor!!!)
Nevertheless, this lady could have used ur advice when she had the chance:
https://archive.is/A2E7y
That was hilarious. Thanks for sharing!
Here is a highlight:
“Not to mention there is still a crowd of 22 year old girls with tight skirts and perfect contouring at these bars. Who has time to compete with that? You work FULL time at a job you probably hate no less.”
I had to chuckle when I read that. If she was able to compete with girls in their early twenties, she would. The reason she no longer goes to bars and clubs is that guys no longer show any interest in her. It is also amusing that she claims to be “over” those intoxicated bachelors who only wanted to sleep with her. Well, lady, the fact that even in your prime no quality guy wanted you should have served as a big, red warning sign.
I read the updates she posted regarding her “mission”. I sympathise with her plight, but her strategy is unfortunately limited in a very significant way since men are the pursuers in the dating game. As a woman, she can only try putting herself out there as much as possible, and hope for a guy to see something in her and make a move. It’s like the female version of daygame: while a guy would approach attractive women on the streets, in her case she struts around places where she thinks good men hang around, hoping to be picked up by one. She seems to have caved to online dating, so she may have realised the futility of female daygame…
“The takeaway is that if you intend to settle down, you should aim for a woman significantly younger than you. She’ll catch up with you anyway. Just imagine what would happen if you, say, as a 42-year old, married a 38-year old woman. ”
If you run the age difference down from 35, then yes, e.g. 10 years is fine. You can’t do that when the man is 27. So additionally you have to make a trade off:
Either young father and smaller age difference
or
Older father and larger age difference.
Assuming you stayed in shape, being a young father is a great thing. Many other factors come into play, too, like experience and resources.
On a different note, Sleazy, Id have a question:
To some extent we try to find the best match for ourselves, but we will face a bit of resistance and your girlfriend mentioned (in other words though) that you opened her eyes a bit in terms of western society (and I assume politics, too). So this “(re-)educational process” of the woman, hence aligning with the man’s views – can you say a bit more about that? I mean there is no perfect match, but a very good one. I’m interested about those little differences and how you go about them. I find myself being perceived too radical, although I think I’m just making an effort to think rationally.
So ,when you question e.g. democracy as a political system, this might clash with her views, yet there are good arguments to be made for it. How do you deal with that “clash”?
My girlfriend is highly intelligent and well-mannered. She is able to sustain a serious intellectual discussion with me. If we come across conflicting points of view, we elaborate on them. In contrast to that, the Western woman way of dealing with that issue is calling her boyfriend or husband a “Nazi” for voicing what are at best centrist positions.
I don’t think we embody this realignment process too well. Sure, Sleazy changed some of my views, but we started off as pretty similar people with our preferences, personalities and outlook already largely in sync. Which is what I think led to his insight on the importance of fundamental compatibility. For instance, before meeting him I already shared many of his views regarding politics and the West. Meeting him only reinforced them. And if we still “clash” on conflicting points of view, then…the man is always right, isn’t it? 😉
In any case, almost all of us here would have our political views perceived as too radical by the average person out there.
“I find myself being perceived too radical, although I think I’m just making an effort to think rationally.”
Well, Neutralrandomthoughts,
When most people just join groupthink cults, thinking rationally is radical nowadays.
Indeed, thinking rationally is the new counterculture