This is another old and unpublished post of mine, which I originally wrote in early 2010. I recently received an email in which a guy made an interesting observation while reading through some of my earliest public forum posts: “In one of your post, you wrote how you had trouble sleeping next to a new… Continue reading When learning how to pick up girls, every step closer to the goal is valuable
I’m still going through files that I have amassed over the last 5 to 10 years. While doing so, I unearthed anther article, which I completed but never posted anywhere. The context was that back then, some PUAtards wrote about “neediness management”, which I thought was yet another nonsensical concept. The claim was that guy… Continue reading Neediness Management — A Problem that takes care of itself
Alek Novy just left a comment on my first post on YouTube train wreck “Blonde in the Belly of the Beast” that reminded me of an article I wanted to write: Consider that girls mature earlier and get experiences earlier than men. A 30 year old woman has lived the life of a 45 year… Continue reading Age vs sexual experience of men and women
Note: This is another article I wrote some tie ago. It was originally intended as a follow-up to my classic post The Biggest Dating Mistake Women Make. It’s been almost four years. Well, let’s just say that I’ve been very busy. In my last article I argued that women should try to find a partner… Continue reading Men are to Wine what Women are to ____ ?
I didn’t think I’d ever shill for an online product, but my opinion of Jordan Peterson’s Future Authoring Program is indeed a positive one. In summary, it is a guided writing exercise, to the tune of $14.95, which will lead you to clarify your goals and help you reach them. In essence, the process is… Continue reading My experience with Jordan Peterson’s Future Authoring Program
In my post “Alpha is a state of mind, not a demographic.” (LOL), I argued that losers don’t feel great and have no reason to feel great anyway. Thus, all attempts to improve their “inner game” without trying to fix their life are bound to fail. In this post, I’d like to elaborate more on… Continue reading Feeling great is a reward for doing well in life
I just came across a comment left by a reader about five years ago (!) on my old blog, which I think deserves further attention, as it very succinctly captures why some guys don’t get laid: Alek [Novy] brought up a very important point in the other thread: if your lifestyle is lacking to the… Continue reading Reader comment: Lack of pussy is a symptom of bigger issues
Occasionally, people recommend I check out Rollo Tomassi’s popular blog “The Rational Male”. I skimmed a few posts. Personally, it’s not for me as his writing is incredibly meandering and very fluffy. I also noticed that he’s been teaming up with a bunch of dubious characters in the commercial PUA industry but, hey, the man’s… Continue reading “Alpha is a state of mind, not a demographic.” (LOL)
Recently a reader remarked on this blog that social science research falls into two categories. It either confirms what is blatantly obvious, or it is obviously bullshit. Here is a recent research result in the former category: Is sociopolitical egalitarianism related to bodily and facial formidability in men? by a bunch of academics from Brunel,… Continue reading Science finds that losers tend to be lefties (duh!)
An interesting aspect of having an internet presence is that sometimes people approach me almost as if they are asking for approval to do something. A few times guys asked me about my opinion on dating much younger girls. Of course, as long as they are not breaking any laws, that’s totally fine, regardless of… Continue reading No, you don’t need to bother with women if you don’t want to
I used to stress the importance of style. It is of course not unimportant, but a much bigger determinant of your success with women is your physique. Thus, if you walk around in a plain T-shirt and your female acquaintances remark that you surely work out, you’re fine. From that point onward, adding more muscle… Continue reading How to figure out whether you’re buff enough for successfully picking up girls
I criticized Jordan Peterson for calling MGTOWs “pathetic weasels”, and outlined that MGTOW consists of two groups: genuine MGTOWs who realize that the odds are stacked against them. The world is full of shitty women and the court system will eat them alive. There is another group: “Virgin-TOW”. Those are men who seek shelter in… Continue reading About Jordan Peterson’s backpedalling on calling MGTOWs “pathetic weasels”
By now you have learned that “just being yourself” doesn’t get you girls, unlike your mom told you. You may also have learned that approaching hundreds of girls indiscriminately doesn’t get you laid either, let alone with “10s”. So, what is left? That’s easy, check out my books. My free ebook Debunking the Seduction Community played a… Continue reading [Sticky] Want a head start? Buy my books!
Besides Vinnie constantly acting like a cuck, yet not suffering any consequences for it, “Entourage” depicts something else the average male can readily identify with: crab mentality. This concept is based on an interpretation of crab behavior. Apparently, if you dump a few hundred crabs into a barrel, they drag each other down instead of… Continue reading The Crab Mentality in “Entourage”
Quite some time ago we had a brief discussion on the HBO show “Entourage” in an Open Thread. I would like to revisit that and flesh out my previous remarks. “Entourage” has often been highlighted by PUA gurus morons as an example of a show full of characters guys wanting to get better with women… Continue reading Why “Entourage” is “Sex and the City” for beta men
Blog reader “Haselnuss” left an interesting comment on the recent Open Thread. It’s about women who, despite being OK-ish looking, can’t get a guy to date them. My first response was to ask about socioeconomic status. But there is of course another point to it. He wrote: I know several 20 y/o women. All of… Continue reading You are a lot better than your competition than you think
Not too long ago I publicly declared that I have a man-crush on Jordan Peterson. In response, a commenter posted a video clip with Peterson’s take on MGTOW (I’ll have more to say about that kind of comment in a different post). Here is the clip: There is a really great sentence in it: “Maybe,… Continue reading Jordan Peterson is wrong with his opinion on MGTOW
In light of my recent post on the bullshit claim that married men live longer, I’d like to tear another oft-repeated and related claim to shreds. It is the claim that men live longer when they marry younger spouses. You’ll find plenty of sources on that. It goes back to an allegedly solid academic study.… Continue reading No, you won’t live longer just because you got a young spouse
Following up on my last post Exercise for Readers: Do married men live longer?, I would like to make a few remarks. But before I start, urge you to read the comments that were left under that post, if you haven’t yet done so. They are worth reading. I was particularly pleased by the wide… Continue reading So, do married men live longer?
On a recent post, blog reader Don commented: I once asked a question about the absurdity of women expecting their husbands to pay for a life time of her expenses just because they love them by forcing ideals of marriage. I got similar responses from Feminists. One even suggested that men live longer in marriages.… Continue reading Exercise for Readers: Do married men live longer?
Blog reader James posted a link to a good article on involuntary men. I’ll post the link for now: http://www.elle.com/life-love/sex-relationships/a33782/involuntary-celibacy/ I currently have a lot on my plate, so I won’t be able to write a dedicated article. As always, though, I read all comments.
Some of you are probably familiar with Johnny Sins, as he is rather prominent in a particular kind of movie genre. This is what he looks like: He’s a pretty buff dude. According to some online source, his stats are 174 lbs (78.9 kg) at 6′ (183 cm). By any means, this is a fantastic… Continue reading Johnny Sins and the problem of unrealistic expectations
Some time ago a reader posted a link to a clip taken from one of the Dirty Harry movies. The video is further below. I don’t want to focus so much on what Clint Eastwood’s character says, or his body language, which shows his utter disapproval of the charade he is supposed to take part… Continue reading An overlooked example of the masculinity (“alphaness”) of Dirty Harry
During the collapse of the PUA industry, some people transitioned into “lifestyle”, writing about how live like a millionaire on a shoestring budget. All it takes is running an online business and moving to some Third World country. There is also the wider manosphere, which has a significant part of people in it who fantasize… Continue reading Alphas abroad, losers back home
A phenomenon I sometimes encounter in my consultations is that guys aren’t honest with regards to their level of success with women, or the complete lack thereof. Often it takes five or ten minutes until they finally admit that they are virgins, or have had a sloppy make out with some drunk chick at a… Continue reading Stop bullshitting yourself
There is a downright obsession with “six-pack abs” and low body fat in general in certain corners of the internet. When skimming certain forums, you could be forgiven for thinking that you accidentally arrived at a watering hole for gay men, such is the adoration (“miring”) many guys show for other guys with well-developed abs… Continue reading Don’t bother getting body fat down to sub-10 % levels
I had to advise someone on a pretty interesting situation some weeks ago: good-looking dude, but he was getting too much attention from the women in his office. This was causing some problems for him, so he asked me what he should do about it. Our discussion moved towards behavior, but at the end I… Continue reading Guide to dressing like a loser
In a recent comment a reader mentioned taking phenibut, a substance that has a calming effect, lowers inhibitions, and relaxes facial muscles, among others. This reminded me of a number of experiments I wanted to conduct. The wider context are “nootropics”, i.e. substances that enhance your cognitive function. Substances I wanted to look into are:… Continue reading Open Discussion: Nootropics
Last week Yarara created a thread with the title “Personal Finances and Common Sense” in my forum. If you are a registered member, please go check it out. You will find some input from me as well.
Most guys are aware that a lot of women deceive with regards to their looks. Makeup is a given. Some women you don’t even recognize without their makeup on. If you lack experience in that regard, at the very least watch a few YouTube tutorials for girls on various techniques, like temporary lip enlargement or… Continue reading Gym BS: Guys experiencing magic growth
Blog reader Yarara left an interesting comment on my post on Fat Vegetarians. The entire exchange he is involved with is interesting, but one statement in particular stands out, and not just because it fits thematically to my last post, Everything you do is a reflection of your personality: At the time I had a… Continue reading You can just walk away!
Last weekend I’ve had a very interesting conversation with a long-time reader of my blog and books. (Thanks again, N.!) We were not talking about pick-up, but instead mostly about trading. To summarize his view on psychological aspects, my interlocutor made the statement that trading is essentially a mirror of one’s personality. Well, books have… Continue reading Everything you do is a reflection of your personality
I don’t care about celebrities. Yet, I do follow a few political news sites, such as Breitbart. To my great surprise, they ran a story on Kanye West and his fat greedy wife Kim Kardashian: Kanye West Begs Mark Zuckerberg for $1 Billion. Yes, I know that it was published in February. This should give… Continue reading What you can learn from Kanye West
I find that it is surprisingly common that guys nurture a defeatist attitude, not just when it comes to their dating life. Of the people who have contacted me for advice over the years, particularly the very inexperienced ones were full of doubt. In an extreme case, an 18 or 19 year-old would lament the… Continue reading The problem with complacency
Most of my adult life I have been slender and toned, which made me very appealing to some women. To give you a rough idea: I had a rather unusual vascularity. Bros call this “veins that pop out”. As a consequence, it happened on occasion that guys approached me who wanted to talk about nutrition… Continue reading Strangely, I now want to get bigger
The body weight exercise fad seems to be slowly dying off. Still, there is no shortage of people peddling workout plans, if not elaborate training programs on DVDs for a dollar amount ending in a 7. The latter is a giveaway that a product is most likely crap. As there has been some discussion related… Continue reading The big limitation of body weight exercises
There has been some discussion about body fat in relation to my post on fake male 10s on Tinder. Of course, in general, lower body fat will lead to better results with the ladies. That being said, I see three problems with guys discussing body fat percentages online: 1) Mental masturbation What do I mean… Continue reading Let’s talk about body fat
We certainly live in a society in which perceptions seem more important than substance. College degrees are getting acquired not for their knowledge, but because they are allegedly a status symbol. For instance, in most of Europe higher education is effectively for free for EU citizens, but there are private universities too, which charge a… Continue reading Perception vs Reality: Everybody is making it
On the October Open Thread on my old blog there was a discussion on the topic of passion. Should you follow your “passion” when choosing a career? There was a strong consensus that such advice was severely misguided. Yet, the mainstream harps on and on about passion. This reminded me of a video that recently… Continue reading Going with your gut feeling?