I recall occasionally coming across the bizarre term “boy-sober”. A woman was said to be in this state if she enjoys a happy life without men, as if she had kicked a bad habit, not unlike alcoholism. “Boy-sober” is the new “stunning and brave”. Quite recently there seems to have been an uptick in the usage of this term, seemingly due to a media campaign. For instance, here is a recent article in the leftist shitrag The Guardian promoting the concept: “No dating apps, no dates, no exes, no hookups: what’s driving the ‘boy sober’ trend?” Just like childlessness, being “boy-sober” is not an enviable state for a woman, though. It has nothing to do with men going their own way either (MGTOW).
Men are normally quite content with being by themselves. We do not need to have a new set of BFFs every year. Of course men enjoy comradery but in the end, every man is a potential loner who needs to figure out things on his own. Nobody is helping men, so men have to find their own way through life, and this normally happens long before they realize that they may be better off not getting married, not getting nagged at home, and not getting divorced. Even guys who bang a lot of women normally do not define themselves by the fact that they bang a lot of women. Instead, they develop an identity that is closely tied to their job or interests.
You may find a man working as accountants who loves spending evenings and weekends on his bike, and he may therefore define himself as a “biker”. Even if you do not want to go as far as constructing an identity around your job or one of your hobbies, it is clear that men are able to dedicate themselves to rather serious activities that can keep them busy for their entire life. In a way, your “career” or having a family gets in the way of your other aspirations. A statement I occasionally hear of older men is that before they married and had a family, they really enjoyed this or that activity, but now they unfortunately no longer have the time for that.
In contrast, women think much differently. Probably only a minuscule fraction of women has any hobbies. No, watching Netflix, eating sweets, and shopping are not hobbies. Many women lead barren and empty lives. Your ex-girlfriend who wanted you to plan out all evenings and weekend, and never had any idea of what to do that did not involve spending a lot of your money certainly did. The best-case scenario of these women is getting knocked up and raising children. Whether it is the best-case scenario for these children is another question, obviously. Yet, if these women stay single for too long, they become more and more frustrated. They see younger women getting all the men they are interested in. Their supposed careers as PowerPoint maestros are stagnating, and their evenings are no longer only filled with Netflix but Netflix and a bottle of wine. Before they know it, they turn into habitual drinkers. At some point, they get a prescription for SSRIs and remain in a stupor for the rest of their adult lives.
Women who do not manage to have children have failed at live. That is their biological purpose, not ensuring that the company they work for hires enough gender-fluid non-whites. As a guy, if you so desire, you can plausibly tell yourself well into your 50s that you could still have children if you wanted, and if you did not completely mess up your life, this is still an option. Sure, you may not get the hottest 20 year-olds but there are plenty of women in their early 30s, some of which are even still moderately good-looking, who would like nothing more than leave their days of being “boy-sober” behind and jump on any dick willing to impregnate them.
Aaron,
“Probably only a minuscule fraction of women has any hobbies. No, watching Netflix, eating sweets, and shopping are not hobbies.”
Since most women do not have any interests in hobbies, how do explanation those who do have interest in hobbies like running marathons, going camping/hiking, doing photography, or joining a bjj gym ? What is the real motivation that women commit to these hobbies for a few years.
I’m not Aaron, but from what I’ve been able to gather, most of the hobbies which women continue to engage in are usually connected to sex, procreation and homemaking anyway, like knitting, sewing, cooking, “fashion”, keeping up on the latest gossip, etc.
Most women who engange in some kind of sports activity do this to stay in shape for their current man or to retain their SMV as best as they can, but rarely for the intrinsic fascination of, say, bodybuilding or the drive of competition in swimming. Those rare women who do though, embody rather masculine characteristics, which is indeed rare.
I once knew a girl in her mid twenties who had been into Gojo-ryu karate since her childhood and thus was quite advanced, she was experienced in competition sparring as well. She occasionally attempted to dig deeper into the cultural aspects of this martial art, but could never really manage to sustain interest there. Eventually she moved to another place, got married there and has never really resumed karate training after that. I heard she switched to some team sports to engage in it with work colleagues, but after an incident with torn ligaments she apparently quit sports altogether.
On the other hand, I personally know European men who have been seriously and continuously active in karate, even despite temporary breaks/set-backs well into their 40s, 50s and even 60s. They train seriously, study Japanese culture and philosophy. A large part of them can speak fluent Japanese and some even write it (which is both not an easy feat). While some of those men are married, some aren’t. Go figure.
“As a guy, if you so desire, you can plausibly tell yourself well into your 50s that you could still have children if you wanted, and if you did not completely mess up your life, this is still an option. Sure, you may not get the hottest 20 year-olds but there are plenty of women in their early 30s, some of which are even still moderately good-looking, who would like nothing more than leave their days of being “boy-sober” behind and jump on any dick willing to impregnate them.”
The trouble is that by then you know you’d be vastly better off dousing yourself in gasoline and striking a match.
Exactly. I think that when a lot of men reach that point of life , and are still single then they won’t have a high tolerance for Women and everything that they bring such as nagging, endless trivial problems, and bullshit.