“But it wasn’t expensive!”

My wife recently bought a small trash bin, which fills some hitherto unused space in the kitchen. In my view, this was not really necessary as we have a big trash bin already, and we also have a basic system for separating trash in place. I really don’t mind seeing a small stack of paper and cardboard, for instance, which I throw out whenever necessary. As I did not fully embrace this purchase, my wife pointed out that this was not an expensive purchase at all and its also useful. I think this item is somewhat superfluous but I don’t really have an issue with it. Afterwards, however, I was reminded of other situations (with other women) where I heard similar arguments, and which were quite problematic because of the complete absence of any consideration about utility, and a concomitant cavalier attitude about spending money.

I knew women who spent money like drunken sailors. Some racked up credit card debt for completely ridiculous purchases, such as pieces of clothing, some of which they ended up not even wearing. Another woman I knew had the habit of going on an online shopping spree whenever she had money left over before her next paycheck arrived. Compared to her, the other woman almost appears frugal in comparison. Yet, even women who cannot properly handle money at all will defend their purchases. One particular woman I am thinking of provided me with two great examples, one seemingly trivial one and another one that is a lot more serious.

Aforementioned woman had the bizarre habit of using plastic butter knives to move ingredients around in a frying pan, and this was not because she did not have proper kitchen utensils. She did, as her apartment had been fully furnished for her by her mother. The problem was that this woman had absolutely no idea how to cook, and her skills did not exceed making an omelette or frying a few eggs. I pointed out the problem of using plastic utensils that melt in the frying pan — she had four or five such kitchen knives, and all were ruined because they were not designed for such usage. As she was a narcissist, she could not deal with criticism at all, and flew off the handle. She told me that it does not matter how she uses those butter knives as they “cost literally nothing” — I abstained from explaining the meaning of “literally” to her at this moment — and she did not believe that plastic is bad for humans because otherwise we would not use so much plastic in society.

Of course, her abused butter knives needed to eventually get replaced, and this means that you spend time and money on an errand that could have been completely avoided. She could have just used one butter knife for its original purpose, and that would have been the end of it. She also was not amused when, after looking it up, I told her that those butter knives, which, in her words, can be had for free, “literally”, cost about four euros each. Even more amusing, in hindsight, was that this bitch repeatedly asked me for money.

The other problem this woman had was that she could not plan ahead. When she wanted an expensive pair of shoes, which she did not have the money for, she begged her parents for it instead of controlling her expenses, saving up some money, and buying them. Entire industries live off women who are unable to control their addiction to wasting money, so you know that this is a mass phenomenon. If you pointed out to this woman that a particular purchase was perhaps not necessary, her defenses were varied. She said that she “needed it”, that “everyone has one of those already”, that “this will become valuable in the future” (she really said that after buying an overpriced sweater) or that she “deserved it”, without clearly specifying why that would be the case.

The justification of more expensive purchases point to a deeper problem with such women. If they think that blowing $250 on another pair of shoes is not a big deal then she will most certainly view any other purchase in a similar light. In my experience, women who are wasteful in the small are wasteful in the large. This is similar to how someone who cannot write a brief email without spelling mistakes will not be able to produce a well-written larger document either. It does not matter if you are so well-off that you could easily shrug off if a woman spent hundreds of dollars on shoes and clothing every month. Her desires will simply scale with the amount of money she can spend. If her parents were a bit less well off, she would buy probably buy fewer items instead of cheaper ones, but if she gets access to serious amounts of money, her expenses will just go up in turn, if not exponentially. Someone has to buy those $100k Birkin bags, after all.

Of course, high-priced luxury items like Birkin bags or Italian sports cars are for the one-percenters. Even much below that, a woman who thinks that money needs to be spent will find ways to do so. One example I am familiar with is the wife of some wage-cuck who habitually buys crappy art, quite often in the low four-figure range, and little of it has any staying power. It just goes into storage after a while, once a replacement has been found, that will similarly only last for a few months or so.

A woman who spends money frivolously will keep you in the hamster wheel indefinitely. Perhaps you could retire in your late 40s or early 50s, but if your wife thinks she needs a new car every two years, new art in the house every three months, and new clothes every two weeks, you can kiss those ambitions goodbye. Challenge her on her spending, and chances are high that she will tell you that “this isn’t a lot of money” or that “this wasn’t expensive”, no matter how much she spends. Those women simply are not able to extrapolate into the future. You will realize that this is a serious problem if you can.

6 thoughts on ““But it wasn’t expensive!”

  1. I knew of a young chick who when she told her fiancé that she no longer wished to marry him, she moved back in with her parents and began working lots of overtime (she had a decent job). However, instead of taking advantage of the free rent and squirreling away a nice nest egg while she searched for a husband, she bought a brand new luxury vehicle. I mean, she could probably afford it technically, but she already had a decent enough ride. It just seemed like she didn’t have her priorities straight. And if she made such a purchase that was easy enough to see on display, I’m guessing the rest of her funds simultaneously got blown on frivolous garbage.

  2. Aaron,
    How much of what a woman buys is used to express status compared to being a compulsive shopper to fill in an empty void?

    1. Incidentally, I have been thinking about female shopping behavior for a bit recently, and hopefully I will manage to write the article on the weekend. First, I want to finish and article on masculinity, working title “1980s Masculinity vs. Present-Day Faggotry”, though. Both aspects you mention clearly exist. Shopping is a means of passing time for a lot of women where they end up buying stuff they don’t need, and I mean this quite literally. They don’t know what to do with their time, so they spend hours browsing for crap to buy online. I have met women who had stacks of clothes with their tags still on them in their wardrobe.

      I think a good approximate answer to your question is that women try to maximize perceived status and once this is taken care off, shopping as a time-wasting activity takes over. Many women have the tendency of wanting to pretend that they are better off than they are, but there is a relatively low ceiling for this kind of activity because even the most irresponsible women will eventually max out her overdraft or credit card. Thus, once they have taken care of their iPhone, a few pairs of expensive shoes, and the core pieces of their wardrobe (until next season), they start spending money on crap. This has even turned into some kind of fashion trend in the last decade or so, where women combine expensive fashion items and fast fashion. They have, by necessity, relatively few expensive items, but then they make up for this by getting heaps upon heaps of cheap disposable clothes. Of course, in-between shopping for clothes she finds the time to leave a like on Reddit posts on why we need to reduce our CO2 footprint and protect the environment.

  3. When I lived in British Columbia in the 1990’s, I got to know an junior elementary school teacher who complained to me that she couldn’t save any money despite a $60,000 salary. At that time I was earning scarcely 11% of that amount because that province started a ten-year recession after I moved there (coinciding with a socialist government). I should have moved to Alberta instead!

    She had no dependents at all, but spent all her discretionary income at garage sales, estate sales, etc. buying crap things that she insisted were valuable collectables; like baby carriages from the 1960’s and 70’s. She also drove the most expensive truck available and updated it every few years; I did mention she was a teacher and not a general contractor?

    As an example of what a shining light of erudition she was, she once asked me what continent Africa was in!

    A few years before my moving away from Ontario I had an 18 year-old girlfriend who spent enormous amounts of money on clothes, accessories and make-up; I don’t believe I ever saw her wear the same outfit twice! Fortunately it was her father paying for it instead of me. I probably dodged a bullet when she dumped me after ten months, especially as she was unbelievably bossy; basically informing me after three dates that she was now my girlfriend.

    If anyone wonders why I stayed with her so long, well she was also a nymphomaniac! She demanded a key to my home and did unannounced booty calls on me.

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