The other day, ZeroHedge had a throwaway article on the cost of a “cheap date”, defined as “cab rides, dinner/lunch for two at a pub or diner, soft drinks, two movie tickets and a couple of beers”. I would agree that this definition of a blue-pilled standard date is reasonably accurate but you should probably value your time as more than 0. Here is the infographic they used:
I am reasonably well-acquainted with the situation in Stockholm, so I will use this city for the following, even though I do not think that the situation is much better in other cities. The biggest issue I see with the figure is that what you get in exchange for your money, ignoring her dangling the possibility of sex in front of you, is really not a lot. The kind of food in those bottom tier establishments is of a really low quality. You will probably regret spending money on it the moment the waiter puts the plate on your table. If you wanted to get a chick by wining and dining, you likely would not impress her much by taking her to some corner pub.
In today’s fiscally hostile and inflationary, a meal for one person at a mid-tier restaurant in Stockholm that serves food at a quality you can not trivially replicate at home will cost you around $40, drinks not included. This is nothing particularly fancy either. With one or two side dishes and beers, you will easily rack up a bill of more than $100. I could now jest that steaks, and sides, and beers is not optimal anyway because a well-fed chick may not feel like putting out. She feels “heavy”, so she is less inclined to get naked with you later. On a somewhat amusing side note, a chick who has set her mind to banging you will probably just nibble on a few leaves of salad in order to avoid feeling heavy and “ugly”.
A really cheap date should cost you somewhere between $0 and $10, i.e. get coffee or tea, go for a walk, and head back to her place. If she wants to bang you, she will be fine with that, and if she does not want to bang you then spending about $250, which is my estimate of the cost of a mid-tier date in Stockholm, is not going to change her mind. Chad gets laid for $0, and blue-pillers easily end up paying $250, without getting laid.
There are a few interesting trends in dating, such as the skyrocketing rate of both men and women who do not have sex, voluntarily or otherwise, or the ever-declining marriage rate. Rents are also ever-increasing. If you are stuck in that kind of hamster wheel, then spending money on dates is just not an attractive choice. In fact, I have a hunch that relationships, and with it, dating are disappearing. The only realistic option for most men and women are random hook-ups. Sure, the women may want more but Chad does not want to get tied down, and the other men she does not find attractive enough, so she will only get a quick pump-and-dump.
I would argue that economic effects will invariably lead to dinner dates disappearing altogether as the cost is no longer justifiable. Granted, in a place like Stockholm, Sweden, where prostitution is partly outlawed, i.e. only the man breaks the law, there is no easy alternative, but Swedish men are leaving this country in large numbers. In other countries, hookers can be had for less than the cost of a cheap date, so why bother anymore? I cannot even imagine that there are guys out there who would spend hundreds or thousands of bucks for nothing in return. At some point, those guys will realize that their dating strategy is not sustainable as they are only ever spending, without getting anything in return.