In response to my recent article on Mel Gibson, I received the following comment by Skepdick:
More broader point is that if a Gigachad alpha like Mel couldn’t ‘hold frame’ and make LTR work, what is an average Joe, who is paying Redpill shysters for consultations, hoping for?
This is, by and large, a valid point. In fact, plenty of people have pointed out that not even Brad Pitt could make his marriages work, so what hope would a less attractive man have? Yet, there are a few aspects that seem to get ignored in this context.
First, it is not the case that all marriages end up in divorce, and even the divorce rate of 50% seems to be a misleading figure. The issue is that fewer people marry nowadays, and the divorce rate is apparently calculated by taking the number of divorces in any given year and divide it by the number of marriages. From a statistical perspective, this is pretty shoddy. Then again, it still gives a rough indication and, more importantly, you get relatively current data as opposed to having to wait 80 years or so, until everyone who got married in the current year has died. A better way, though, would be to normalize the data in some way to make sure that the numbers in both the numerator and the denominator are indeed commensurable. For this, you would have to come up with an adjustment factor, but let us not get caught up in this for the time being.
A sizable number of marriages work out. Yet, even the others certainly do not inevitably end in the guy jumping from a rooftop. Sure, there are famous actors and athletes who suffered mightily in divorce court, and some never recovered from this setback. I also know of people in real life who never got over getting dumped by their sweetheart, let alone build themselves up again after divorce. Probably, if you have a fair number of acquaintances you will hear of someone who turned into an alcoholic and lost his job, for instance.
As bad as all of this is, the problem still remains that some men simply want to have their own children. Giga-chad Mel Gibson could of course just have banged one random chick after another, but he probably wanted to provide more for his children than that. This was likely the case with the seven children he fathered with hist first wife. Surely, he did not expect getting hit with a $400m divorce bill, but he survived that and kept going, producing a few more good movies, and even getting involved with more women because, apparently, seven kids are just not enough if you are a Giga-Chad like Mel Gibson. It may sound outlandish, but, clearly, even his $400m divorce did not ruin him. According to questionable sources online, his current net worth is $425m, so he certainly ended up being poorer as he was worth close to one billion, not inflation-adjusted, at the time of divorce.
You could argue that what guys like Mel Gibson and others who lose a big chunk of their wealth in divorce pay a “chad tax”, assuming that they got children out of the marriage. If not, then they were simply taken to the cleaners, but that is a different issue. We live in a pretty sickening world, and even Mel Gibson needs to accept court rulings. This is similar to how you all pay your taxes. Very few would be willing to move abroad, to a tax-friendlier jurisdiction. Sure, you can view this as defeatist, but those expenses are simply part of the cost of being alive.
An alternative strategy would be to be poor, have sex with random women, and abandon them with their little baby Tyrones. This is a pretty popular strategy for a certain segment of society, but I do not think this really applies to high-achieving men. The same is probably true for guys who move abroad to get out of having to pay their ex-wife. Interestingly, this strategy seems to be much easier to implement for a relatively average Joe than a world-famous actor.