I find the concept of “closure” in the context of relationships bizarre. It must be an idea that has been promoted by movies and the cucked mainstream. In reality, however, there will never be any closure and it is quite easy to see why. Generally, there are only a few possible power dynamic when a sexual relationship ends. It never ends when both want to end it. Instead, one of the parties has decided to move on, whereas the other still clings to the relationship. The person who has decided to call it quits does not need closure as they have made up their mind already. In contrast, the party who got dumped may want some kind of justification for why things ended. Yet, does this really change anything? If anything, “closure” will likely only inflict additional pain.
In the vast majority of cases, women end the relationship. The most common cause is that they are on birth control and therefore don’t get pregnant. Rationally, she may understand that she does not get pregnant because she is on the pill. Yet, her biology will make her perceive the man as infertile and thus genetically useless. Thus, she needs another man. Women, however, don’t just break up. In the vast majority of cases, she will leave once she has secured a better option. If that guy turns out to only have wanted to pump-and-dump her, she’ll probably try to boomerang back to you, but that’s a different story.
If you were dumped by some chick, would you need to hear that she found a “better” guy? It will hopefully help you to realize that she will go through the same cycle with him if she remains on birth control. Also, she is not going to get any younger, so you certainly had her when she was physically more desirable, which implies that it is highly unlikely that her new partner is objectively of higher quality than you. As her decision is driven by emotions, which may be highly fickle, she would give you different explanations for why she left depending on when you ask her, provided she would answer truthfully at all. It’s all nonsense. Just like a woman will not be able to give you a good explanation for why she ended up fucking you — she will likely not admit that it was because of your looks and/or money because she does not want to be seen as shallow — she will not be able to give you a good reason for dumping your ass to for the next Chad. (Article continues below.)
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On the other hand, if you dumped some woman, you would have a very good reason to do so. You did not want, nor do you need, any closure because you have closed this chapter now. Your reason is likely that you were fed up with something she did (over and over) and now you had to admit to yourself that she is simply a horrible girlfriend and not worth spending any kind of resources on, which include time and mental energy. What kind of “closure” would she want in this case? Most certainly, she is well aware of the reasons you dumped her and you know that she won’t change, so all her pleading to meet up one last time is just a last-ditch effort of her to rope you back in. Instead of wanting closure, she’ll likely just try to seduce you and hope that you’ll forget about what a horrible person she is while you bang her, and then she hopes that you will forget about leaving her because she emptied your balls so well.
There is also the case where a breakup at first seems to have been desired by both equally. This is generally nonsense. Maybe there are corner cases where two traditional Indian families blow off an arranged marriage for whatever reason. In the West, however, it’s arguably never a mutual decision. I would go one step further and say that it is almost always the woman who directly or indirectly ends the relationship. We covered the direct case above already. The indirect case is also interesting. In this case, the woman has decided that she wants to leave but is afraid to just tell you, for whatever reason. What then happens is that she will provoke the breakup. This means that she may start fucking other guys and be more and more obvious about it. In addition, she may become more and more combative in your interactions until you have had enough. (I would argue that this must be less common nowadays as women just ghost men, increasingly even to get out of a long-term relationship.)
A trap some guys fall into is to try to fix the relationship when their girlfriend shows such bad behavior. There is nothing to fix there, though. You can only fix it if you leave — and this is exactly what she wants. Maybe you have heard of chicks dating two guys at once. Sometimes, there is one guy who has been exposed to months of verbal and psychological abuse by a cheating girlfriend who is already seriously dating a different guy. She has already emotionally distanced herself from the old boyfriend. There are even women who keep some passive betabuxxer around for years. That poor simp thinks she is his girlfriend whereas she moves on from one guy to the next. Again, she does not need closure if she finally left, and the guy probably could not handle the truth anyway.
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