n one of the recent Open Threads, GoodLookingAndSleazy left a comment that questioned the validity of game:
Former porn star Jenna Jameson told Howard Stern how she made out with Bruce Willis at an LA club one night. He just came up to her, grabbed her and kissed her. Then he took off. She loved every minute of it. Howard actually pondered how he could pull that off. She said, “he had game.”
As we all know, “game” as it was promoted by the PUA crowd, does not work. What works, though, is having looks, status, and money. Bruce Willis, in particular at the height of his career, had it all.
There is another interesting part in the quote above. Remember Donald Trump casually stating (not boasting!) that he can just grab women by the pussy as he’s a billionaire and TV star. In the anecdote above, Bruce Willis just grabbed Jenna Jameson and made out with her. Given that Jenna Jameson was the biggest star in the porn business back then, I’d say that this doesn’t indicate good judgment on behalf of Bruce Willis, but that’s a separate issue.
I’m obviously nowhere near Bruce Willis and Donald Trump in terms of real-world success. Yet, I’ve quite frequently just grabbed chicks in clubs and made out with them right away and some of those interactions led to incredibly quick pulls that ended in a bathroom stall minutes later. To pull this off, a woman has to be both horny and find you quite attractive. Oh, and she better be a bit of a slut, too. A few times in those situations, I had chicks stop me. Then the interaction took a turn towards the somewhat bizarre. They would then ask me questions like,
- “Who are you?”
- “Are you, like, an actor or something?”
- “You’re really rich, right?”
I recalled those responses after reading that Bruce Willis anecdote but I didn’t think much of them back then. Now those reactions make a lot more sense to me. Those women weren’t fully into me but they assumed that I was acting this way because of some external reason. This was the only explanation that was plausible to them so they wanted to find out what the missing piece of information was. Also, those reactions imply that these women have been picked up by such men before.
There are women who are overeager to sleep with men of high status. It’s quite bizarre at times. Women literally line up outside band busses after a gig. When the band shows up, those dudes just point their finger at some chicks and they follow them into the bus. Obviously, if you’re playing in some band and you have chicks literally throwing themselves at you, your behavior is likely to change significantly. In London, I once overheard some slut offering a BJ to a dude who had a backstage pass at a concert. She asked if she could get his backstage pass. The dude laughed in response, and the chick then said, “I can blow you if you want”. She didn’t get the backstage pass, probably because they had enough chicks in the backstage area already who did anything for free.
None of what I wrote vindicates PUA bullshit along the lines of “just be confident, bro!” as you still need the element of physical attraction. If she’s not attracted to you at all, you can’t pull this off. However, if she is borderline attracted, you can run into the kind of situation I described. Also, I should mention that the encounters I described mostly fizzled out, primarily because it’s a bit anti-climactic to a woman if she expects you to be at least moderately famous but you’re not.
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