In a recent comment on an Open Thread, Alek Novy made a very good observation about men who are too picky. He rightly diagnosed,
I bet most blackpillers have no problem jerking off to a ton of porn. But if they saw that same girl in clothes and without makeup, she’s not good enough for them.
This is a true and powerful statement. I would like to call it the Pornstar/Plane Jane Paradox because the same guy would ignore the very same woman in real life if she wasn’t dolled up for work, but happily masturbate to video clips to her otherwise.
Alek’s observation is great for a variety of reasons. One is that most men indeed get easily tricked by makeup. I find women with heavy makeup on rather off-putting, but if that was generally the case, women wouldn’t spend billions on all the harmful chemicals they plaster their faces with every single day. Despite my general objection to makeup, I furthermore readily admit that with a bit of skill, it easily enhances the visual appeal of women, and with a lot of skill you quickly enter the realm of fraudulent advertising.
Makeup turns a slim plain Jane into a porn star. If you don’t believe it, just look up what your favorite starlet, e-thot, or cam whore looks like without makeup or filters. It’s a night-and-day difference. While women have a rather narrow view of male beauty, men are a lot more forgiving. I bet men would be even more forgiving and prefer women in many sizes and shapes. If more men realized that they can, within reason, transform their woman into the kind of woman they sexually desire, they might be even more forgiving. Obviously, there are limits. If you are into slender women, then you can’t pick an obese one and expect her to shed her extra weight in a few months.
There are obvious caveats, like her age or facial deformities. You won’t be able to turn a menopausal woman into a young porn starlet, and if your woman has facial deformities or various unattractive features such as a very masculine chin or a crooked nose, you will find that the powers of makeup are somewhat limited. Yet, a woman with an average face is basically a canvas that allows for great expressivity. A lot of women with very plain faces are in porn or work as escorts. For this, they only need to maintain a gym routine and know how to use makeup.
Here is a picture that was taken from a Huffington Post article, under the assumption of Fair Use, that shows one representative example. (There are dozens of others in the article.) Without makeup, this woman is a 6. Her body is probably pretty decent. With proper makeup, she looks like an entirely different person. It is safe to assume that without makeup on, this woman would get ignored by countless men, most of which would be happy to rub one out looking at her in her work attire on screen.
Alek also wrote that he considers a woman’s body more important for his arousal than her face. We have engaged in speculations rooted in evolutionary psychology a few times, and this is another good application of it as I think that men have evolved to be more aroused by a woman’s body than her face. We weren’t always bipeds and having proper furniture for copulation is an even more recent occurrence. Thus, it makes sense to assume that our Stone-Age Chad predecessors more or less exclusively had sex in the doggy-style position. That’s also how animals do it. Your dog can’t have sex with a female dog (gee, what’s the word again?) in missionary style, nor can he go completely bonkers and explore positions like the wheelbarrow. Go back in time enough, and you encounter proto-humans who haven’t figured out bipedal locomotion yet.
Apparently, many men have evolved past common sense, which is why they get tricked by the Pornstar/Plain Jane paradox.
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