As you may have heard, there have been some dark clouds hanging over the British Royal Family. Prince Harry and the single mother he wifed-up, Meghan Markle, want to live their own life and no longer take part in the various gigs the Royal PR Troupe has to endure. In the comments section, we have been musing about how long it will take before Meghan will divorce Harry. Note that Meghan has gotten knocked up by Harry and given birth once already. Her setup is complete. [EDIT: I made a mistake. Meghan was not a single mother when she married Prince Harry. She was a divorcee, though. This does not change the subsequent argument substantially as it only shifts single motherhood into a potential future. The fundamental issue is you-go-girl-ism.]
One of my readers pointed out that Meghan is now close to 40 and surely could not do any better than marrying a real Prince. Sure, if Meghan were perfectly rational, she would not even dream of divorcing Harry. Doing so would be insane. However, when analyzing human behavior, not just female behavior, using rationality as a criterion is not necessarily the best approach. I point this out because my audience tends to be closer to being hyper-rational than having normie, er, neurotypical sentiments. So, don’t think like a rational person. Instead, imagine how a poorly behaved toddler would act. Think of stimulus and response, and waste no time considering negative long-term consequences: they see something, and they want, like right fucking now!
Some of you may now think that I am far too dismissive. To that, I would respond by pointing out that Meghan Markle is, or was, a single mother. Barring exceptional cases, like the father dying in an accident, a single mother ended up in her situation by choice. True, it probably wasn’t a smart choice, but it was a choice nonetheless. To your future single mother, getting raw-dogged by Chad, Jamal, or Tyrone feels pretty damn good, and all the you-go-girl propaganda also has an effect. Thus, why wouldn’t a woman who cannot properly assess long-term ramifications of decisions made in the present think she can raise a child on her own? She may be fully aware that Chad won’t stick around, but that won’t bother her because she has been told that she is strong enough to do “the most difficult job in the world” all by herself.
A lot of women get divorced way past their best before date, which is likewise a highly irrational decision. To an observer, this may indeed sound bizarre. Yet, put yourself in the shoes of such a woman. Maybe she was a very attractive 20 year old once and still believes that she is every bit as good looking as she was back then, even though she is now 40 years old. Not all women were beautiful when they were young, but women tend to dramatically overestimate how good they look. Add to that a constant barrage by mainstream media on how desirable older women are and you end up with a dissatisfied below-average to average wife who compares her reliable albeit average looking husband to a composite of the looks of her (gay) yoga instructor, the fame of Kanye West, and the money of (pre-divorce) Jeff Bezos. Recall that not even Brad Pitt was “alpha enough” to avoid divorce, and he’s about as alpha as anybody can get.
While the dissatisfied wife is getting off with her vibrator and phantasies of a chimera of a guy ramming her, she is only getting more and more convinced that she could do so much better. Every day is the same for her, except for those few hot minutes with her vibrator. Apart from that, her life lacks excitement. She needs something new! After taking a long look at her husband, she decides that today is the day. She needs to get divorced, like right now! (Remember the toddler?) The dumpy female hero of our story does not get her ultimate wish granted, however. Only if she is lucky will she get the occasional guy who would pump and dump her, but nobody would ever commit to her. The guy shrugs, signs the divorce papers, and is secretly glad he’s gotten out of it, even if it costs him half his life’s savings.
After many months of little success getting the guy she deserves, the ex-wife may make an attempt at getting her now ex-husband back. However, her regrets will only ever be the result of the world daring to not fulfill her wishes. She could have figured out in advance that she won’t do that well in the dating market anymore. In fact, her supposed loser of a husband was the best she could have gotten. Yet, only once he is gone will she realize what she had in him.
If you look at women divorcing their husbands from this angle, you’ll realize that it does not matter that, for instance, Meghan Markle will most likely not find another guy as wealthy as Prince Harry. Should she one day wake up and realize that Prince Harry is not Chad Thundercock, divorce as well as fantasies of seducing the most attractive and most successful guys on the planet with ease will quickly enter her mind. In the case of Meghan Markle in particular, you have to take into account that she managed to lock down one of the most eligible bachelors on earth despite having been a single mom and despite her relatively high age. She’ll probably think that she’s done it once and that she can do it again.
Lastly, you should not mistake this post as me bashing women. Not at all. I never do that. There are plenty of examples of men who made similarly colossal mistakes. A good example is boxing champions who retire from retirement and enter the ring again, to invariably dismal results. Muhammad Ali’s comeback was a disaster, for instance. You can probably find examples in any competitive field. In all cases, it holds that you’ve had your time window and once it has closed, it’s closed. Age is relentless. You don’t have to look for athletes to attempt an ill-advised comeback. Just look for your random menopausal woman who thinks she can ditch her husband and trade up.
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