A while ago a reader left a particularly misguided comment on my blog. It was the following (see the comments section of the post “Men Who No Longer Really Care About Women”):
Honestly, you need to give women a break. Why? They are fed terrible propaganda from a young age and practically brainwashed into a hoe phase. The checklist for men should be (1) do I get good regular sex (2) is she hot (3) does she treat me well. If you have those things I’m not sure why you’d complain.
As it is the case with so many hostile comments, I expect this one to have been written by a woman, not just because the bar suggested is so low. The problem is that your typical woman brings, on average, nothing to the relationship. Now that more men are checking out, some women suddenly claim that they “cook and clean” (lol) and that they provide “nourishing conversation”, or some bullshit like that. We’ll talk about the cost of maintaining a girlfriend later. For now, let’s just go through the
First, sex is shockingly overvalued. On top, the vast majority of women is quite passive in bed. They just lie there and the guy does all the work. You do all the pounding, while she may moan a bit but otherwise not be distinguishable from a corpse, body temperature aside. Sometimes, this is referred to as “starfish sex.” This is, on a side note, precisely the reason why an inanimate sex doll can fulfill the sexual needs of a man, while a male sex doll would be nigh useless for a woman, apart from the fact that it does not spit out 100-dollar bills. What woman out there is able to ride a dick actively for a solid ten to fifteen minutes?
Ceteris paribus, you’d certainly rather want to bang a hot woman than a not-so-hot one. However, her looks are only temporary. If she would make a shitty mother, then it does not matter how good-looking she is in the present. She is just not worth it. Also, you have to keep in mind that “hotness” is often misunderstood. You’d think that it would refer to a woman with an excellent physique and facial features who works out regularly. Instead, your average thot thinks she’s hot if she puts on a push-up bra and plasters her face with a ton of make-up. That look is not overly appealing once you’ve seen a supposedly hot woman without makeup the next day.
Her treating you well should be non-negotiable. However, very few women do that. Modern society has made great strides towards making women rather insufferable, with a sense of entitlement that is downright comical. There are marketing campaigns that would make for great entertainment, but they are (or have been) taken at face value, such as that an engagement ring should cost as much as the groom-to-be makes in three months, or that a wedding should cost the yearly salary of the groom. Well, the wedding industry is trending downwards, so it seems that the parties involved have been overplaying their hand.
The current dating landscape is so bad that there are plenty of guys who would be happy with even a rather homely-looking woman as long as she shows good behavior. That alone is incredibly difficult to find. Instead, there is a sea of sluts out there who may want to fuck a lot, use a ton of makeup so that they can pretend to be hot, and who only treat you well during their initial love-bombing. Afterwards it’s all downhill.
We talked about the trifecta of the ideal woman before: virgin, debt-free, and no tattoos. All of this means just saying no: “No, I don’t want to have premarital sex!”, “No, I’d rather not take out $200,000 for a degree in Gender Studies”, and, “No, I do not want to get a tattoo.” If the bar for men was as that low, it would mean that scrawny shut-ins who live off welfare and don’t ever open their mouth are a hot property on the dating market. Instead, the demands on men are only getting higher. So, if a slut tells you that she a) fucks, b) is hot (because of a ton of makeup) and c) will love-bomb you into submission, you’d better not waste your time on her. A single tattoo should be a deal-breaker as it indicates poor long-term planning. The same is true if she has been sleeping around and racking up an inordinate amount of debt, or any debt at all.
The bar for women needs to be high because they are, viewed objectively, a drain on your resources. A single guy with a job, any job, could retire in his 40s if he learned to live within his means. With a wife and kids, that will be a distant dream. Note that I am not saying that having a wife and kids is a negative overall. You get companionship and support, in the best case, and children, and for the latter you need good genes from her, too. (Behavior is genetically determined as well, by the way.) But the flip-side is that you burden your life with an enormous amount of responsibility. You are not going to get out of that rat race anytime soon. This is precisely why your standards on a woman should be extremely high. You are trading decades of your life. I would say that most guys will be better off on their own as the number of marriageable women, based on the rather simple metrics (near-)virgin, debt-free, no tattoos, and good genes, is vanishingly small.
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