Back in the days I faced a lot of hostility online by PUAs and their sad gaggle of shills when I pointed out that looks do indeed matter and that height is very important for success with women. In contrast, the commercial seduction industry promoted the claim that looks do not matter. As height falls under the umbrella of looks, it therefore does not matter as well, in their twisted world view. As anyone who has eyes to see knows, looks matter a great deal for success in women. Also, height is of paramount importance to them. In this article, I cover male height in depth. As a bonus, I also mention the very few compensation techniques there are.
Height matters a lot. The standard counter argument used to be that “game” is more important than looks, height included, because some tall, well-built guy could be awkward and therefore repel women, while some extremely well-versed PUA who knows to approach women from a 37.5 degree angle, and with the perfect opener, would get the girl any time. If that was the case, then I would not have seen so many PUAs strike out more or less all the time. There was nothing to them. Of course, it is the case that a guy with excellent genetics can talk himself out of getting laid or simply weird them out by acting in a strange way. I refer to this as “anti-game”. While “game” is nonsense and does not get you laid, “anti-game” is real and means that due to your own incompetence you can certainly ensure that you will mess up one chance after another to get laid. Every guy I know who got from a position of very little success with women to slaying them left, right, and center belonged to that category. Once they stopped doing stupid things, they had one woman after another hop on their cock.
When you want to make an honest assessment whether something, anything, is good or bad, you are well-advised to look at that particular aspect in isolation as opposed to dreaming up some additional conditions. I claim that it is generally better to have more money than less. Sure, you can now say that drowning in money would be crappy because you’d have all those shady investment managers harass you, and what about all those gold diggers who want to trap you with a baby? Just as you can have too much money in the mind of the morons who make such a claim, you can probably also have sex with too many women who are too beautiful. Heck, it may make you elitist because you can no longer relate to Billy Beta-Bucks who has never fucked a woman who didn’t look like a dog. Similarly, people may tell you that the ideal height is not 6′ or 6’3″, but rather a much shorter height like 5’6″. Those deluded guys come up with all kinds of reasons. Among my favorites is that a shorter guy would be more attractive to women because he would not be that much taller than she is. Other arguments centered around physique, pointing out that a shorter guy will look more muscular than a similarly fit taller guy because the former has a more compact build. Well, it is true that it’s more difficult for a tall guy to get buff, but that does not mean that the tall guy somehow no longer isn’t tall. I even read guys proclaim that women don’t really care about height anyway, so any height is the best height. Just think about how ridiculous this sound if you rephrase it: any x is the best x!
The fact that there are guys who want to tell you that height does not matter should already make you suspicious. It’s such an obviously false statement. Every short guy is well-aware of his physical shortcomings. They only have to go to a club or any place where there is a crowd of people and try to walk through the crowd. For them, this can be genuinely difficult undertaking because taller people hardly notice them. In contrast, if a tall guy walks through a crowd, people sometimes move away even subconsciously. By that I mean that people move out of your way even though they have their back turned to you. That’s because they notice your towering presence. There is a world of difference in how people, not just women, react to a tall guy versus a short one. If you think this sounds like total bullshit, then look at the following pictures. The first one is a bit light-hearted. It is taken from the anime adoption of Mad Bull 34, a manga by Kazuo Koike and Noriyoshi Inoue .
The guy on the right is the titular “Mad Bull”, the puny guy on the left is his new partner. If you were a woman who only existed in an anime, which one would you fuck? Now you may think that this contrast between some puny dude and this hulk of a man is surely exaggerated, but let’s look at two real life examples of obvious height differences to illustrate that this is at best an exaggeration of a real-life phenomenon. The first is a picture of Geert Wilders (6’5″) together with Tommy Robinson (5’7″), with a picture Winston Churchill right between them in the background.
Doesn’t Geert Wilders make Tommy Robinson look rather tiny in comparison? Oh, in that context, I read that Tommy Robinson being short is a supposed benefit as it makes him less vulnerable to political assassinations. That would be an amusing justification to add to the arsenal of height denialists. Below is another picture, showing Candace Owens right between Ben Shapiro and Charlie Kirk. I don’t think the latter has a particularly attractive face, but his height is certainly imposing.
Ben Shapiro (5’6″) looks like a kid in comparison. Quite frankly, a visiting zoologist from outer space may conclude that he belongs to a whole different species than Charlie Kirk, due to the height difference. I could not find reliable information on Charlie Kirk’s height, but it is clear that he is a lot taller than that puny little manlet Ben Shapiro. Candace Owens’ height is claimed to be 5’4″ (not in heels), but I also found statements online according to which she never released information about her height, so let’s take it with a grain of salt. However, if she’s 5’4″, then the picture above also nicely illustrates the effect of high heels.
Now, imagine you’re a a woman and you want a man. Would you feel more protected by Ben Shapiro, who looks as if he couldn’t even intimidate a cat, or the hulk Charlie Kirk? Who of those two do you think would get Candace Owens more aroused? Can you even imagine Ben Shapiro trying to pick up a woman at a bar? I think the answers are pretty obvious. You can bet that if Ben Shapiro and Charlie Kirk walked into a bar together, the former would be essentially invisible. Charlie Kirk would have women giggling at anything he says. Girls would attest that he is “so funny”, while they would only notice Ben Shapiro if they were looking for some loser to buy them drinks.
There is probably a point at which you are too tall for your own good. I think if you’re 6’5″ and above, your height can become an issue. A problem for some tall guys is that they have poor posture, but that can be fixed fairly easily. Yet, if you are used to bumping your head on door frames, it may be a bit more difficult for you to learn how to walk upright. On the other hand, if you’re very tall, you may also have some rather enticing opportunities. This may sound flippant to some, but if you’re a very tall teenager, I’d certainly look into pursuing a sport where your height is a big benefit, like rowing or basketball. At 6’5″ you’re in the top fraction of a percent in terms of height. You may not make it to the NBA but maybe you can get an athletic scholarship for college or play sports semi-professionally. From a friend who studied at the University of Cambridge, I learned that if you’re a stellar rower, it’s significantly easier to get admitted because Cambridge and Oxford have their yearly boat race on the Thames, which is a very competitive event. They don’t want a team of some scrawny IQ-150 math nerds defend the honor of those universities, so a small number of buff athletes get a leg up. This is not part of the official policy but, to quote my friend, you’d only have to talk to one of the star rowers to realize that they weren’t admitted based on the academic strength of their application.
One of the more interesting people I met in recent years, a 6’6″ tall white guy, played basketball professionally in Europe for a few years. He completed his degree on time, played sports full-time for two or three years and banged a ton of women, which was only made easier because he traveled around for his job. He didn’t necessarily get them due to name recognition, which he didn’t have, but he said that he only had to go out with two or three of his team mates. Chicks would just come with them. Now he works in a STEM job and holds a leadership position. I don’t have the impression that this excursion hurt his career in any way. If anything, it made him a much more interesting candidate.
The other big issue very all guys have is that they can easily look lanky. I coached a few such guys. My default recommendation is weight training and eating. With 15% body fat and somewhat defined arms, those guys can easily look like a tank. If in doubt, you’re probably better off being tall and a bit on the fat side instead of being toned. My buddy Byte, for instance, is 6’5″. In his seducer heydays he was around 250 pounds. He made me look puny in comparison. If you saw a picture of him, you’d claim that his physique is lacking and that he would need to hit the gym to get rid of his excess baggage (he eventually did slim down). Yet, when he entered a place, there were always girls who immediately gravitated towards him. It was as if he exerted gravitational pull on them. I am also familiar with that kind of reaction, but I am not at his level in that regard.
The most interesting observation about height is when you notice how it automatically gets you attention when people suddenly realize how tall you really are. To give you an example, imagine you’re in a meeting. You sit down. Some woman comes in late and sits down at the table. From her behavior during the meeting, you can tell that she does not like you very much. Many women have their lovely ways of letting you know, even in a professional context. Anyway, the meeting is over and you get up. As you do so, she realizes how tall you are — and she’s staring at you with her mouth and eyes wide open. Maybe this happens to me more often because my face is not conventionally attractive. Something similar may happen in the gym. Let’s say I sit down to rest, and as I get up, suddenly some thot stares at me. Sometimes, thots even turn around to get another look. It’s even funnier when you notice such behavior as an observer. When I visited my buddy Byte a few weeks ago, he stopped some woman in her tracks by just getting up at a restaurant. He got up from his chair and this chick who was a few feet behind him seemingly completely forgot what she wanted to do and just looked at him. She just stood there, watching him head to the restroom until she got back to her senses.
The shorter guys among you may now read this and boil. Maybe it seems arbitrary that women are so into height. Maybe you keep telling yourself that some short guy got this tall super-model girlfriend and the fact that he’s a billionaire or actor is completely irrelevant for it. You may even fantasize that there is a little bit of Tom Cruise in you, even though you don’t have a net worth of hundreds of millions of dollars. Maybe you tell yourself that every rich and famous short guy would have gotten his hot girlfriend with “game” just the same. But let’s be honest here. Height is an indicator for genetic fitness. It furthermore indicates that your parents were able to feed you well for years, so you’re probably not poor. Height and intelligence are likewise correlated, because taller guys have bigger heads, bigger heads contain bigger brains, and bigger brains are smarter brains, just like bigger muscles are stronger muscles. All of this is just reality. There is no point in getting upset about it or fantasizing about shady leg-lengthening operations that have nasty side effects, like sending you straight into a wheelchair in your 50s.
If you are not particularly tall, there is not so much you can do, but all is not lost. If your posture is bad, I would work on that as this will dramatically improve your appearance. Don’t hunch! You can also take a leaf out of the Big Female Book of Deception. Start wearing leather shoes instead of sneakers as the former tend to have a heel that boosts your height by 1.5 inches or so. On top, get inlays to add another inch. In particular if you are a little below 6′, this will help you a lot. On a related note, some of you may try their luck online and get frustrated because all the women ignore you due to your stated height. Well, do what a lot (most?) women do and state your height with those artificial boosters. The number of women who believe that their height in high heels is their natural height is rather substantial. Lastly, you can make use of another female habit: lie! The difference between a woman in real life and her representation online is often staggering. So, to even the playing field a little bit, bump yourself up from 5’8″ or 5’9″ to 6′! She’s likely at least ten pounds heaver than in her pictures, so what right would she have to complain? It’s not your fault that so few women are dishonest. Your behavior is thus only par for the course. If you are tall, you don’t really need to resort to such measures, but in that case, be thankful for your genetic heritage.
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