A commenter on this blog recently asked if women can sense how much money you have. For the most part, they cannot. They rely on information you provide. This has some interesting implications because deception is not the sole domain of the woman. Yet, faking wealth is a lot more difficult than faking good looks via applying makeup and getting a pair of fake tits.
The first big takeaway is that the average woman can only detect consumption, not wealth. This means that a guy who is funding his lavish or not so lavish lifestyle with debt will be just as attractive to her as, ceteris paribus, the same guy who uses
The inability to distinguish between real and fake wealth is a matter of great chagrin of women. I have been involved with many women, most of whom just viewed me as some kind of fuck toy. As they did not consider me for a serious, i.e. resource-extraction-based long-term, relationship, they let their guard down around me. This lead to some unbelievable situations, like meeting up with some chick at a bar at the end of the night, and catching her spouting venom in the circle of her friends, complaining that guys in one particular club “all have no money; it’s their fathers’ money.”
The particular context of the previous example was that there is (or was) a particular club/restaurant in Berlin at Hotel Adlon, which is one of the premier hotels in the city. That woman and her friends went there repeatedly and seem to have believed that they’ll get some guy to spread his wealth if they only spread their legs in return. I was particularly surprised at the shortsightedness of those women because, obviously, it’s only a matter of time until wealth is passed down from father to son. Yet, they can’t even have that much patience. (By the way, those women were medical students from a solid middle-class background, so you better not bring up a social-class based counter argument.)
On the topic of faking wealth, I recall one guy who claimed that he gets laid based on exactly that. He would innocuously flash a Porsche key chain in the club and leave big tips. He does not drive a Porsche, though. Roughly, his setup was that he had a good job that entailed a lot of travelling, working on site at a client’s office four days a week. He sometimes, stayed in the city for the weekend, just to go out and party. Due to his job he couldn’t build much of a social life anyway. What is amusing about that guy, though, is that he could afford a Porsche. Yet, he realized that hinting at wealth that may or may not exist can get you laid just as well.
You may now object that, surely, women who play that kind of game would want to make the guy wait. Yet, that does not seem to be the case at all. Instead, a guy who is perceived as being wealthy will have multiple women chasing after him. If Stacy would fuck him on the same night, but Cindy has her eyes on him, too, do you think Stacy will keep her legs together? No, she will throw her pussy at him instead. To many women, sex means nothing anymore. It’s used as barter. If it is the only thing they can use for bartering, why would they let the guy wait? In the current year, female competition keeps women slutty. The woman does now know if the guy has any sincere interests or not, but this big baller, who may be fake or not, will be gone if she does not jump on his dick tonight. So, what else is she going to do? She has only one trump card, and she is going to play it no matter what.
Lastly, plenty of women have caught on the fact that you can have money without showing it. This is more of an issue once
On that note, during my first time hitting the dating scene, very few women asked me if I had kids. The implication is that a guy who is divorced has to pay a lot of child support. However, when I rejoined the dating scene when my first marriage was breaking down, more than half of the women I met asked me if I had kids. I found it amusing that plenty of women still banged me no matter what and only
As a guy, you can rightfully feel indignant once you realize that women who are looking for a boyfriend are very interested in your money. I’d say it’s just par for the course. Women bring their youth and fertility to the table, and plenty of them deceive men with makeup and cosmetic surgeries. On the other hand, men trade their resources for access to a fertile woman in her prime. A woman who uses thick layers of makeup is just as off-puttig as one who bluntly asks for your bank statements. Yet, guys who gaudily flash their wealth can be just as off-putting, no matter if it’s real wealth or otherwise. There is a distincting between being rich and being wealthy, by the way. The latter implies intergenerational wealth and, thus, more refined manners. Thus, gaudiness is associated with the “nuveaux riche.” I think a woman who bluntly asks you how much money you have is
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