On the weekend or on some evenings, I read at my local university library as I like a change of scenery every once in a while. My favorite reading room has a few rows of tables with dividers in between. If it weren’t for the barrier in the middle, you would face some other person or an empty chair. You sit down and do your thing. You don’t really want to be bothered by anyone anyway as you are there to read or study.
As I was sitting and
reading shit-posting online, I noticed that the woman sitting across from me grazed my foot with one of her feet. I did not think much of it as this can happen, even though is somehow hardly ever does. A little bit later, though, I felt that foot briefly tapping her foot on my toes and, after a moment, putting her foot again right next to mine. That was not an accident. I gave her foot a swift little kick, which made her stop bothering me. As she got up maybe ten minutes later, I noticed her looking at me and when I looked up, she quickly looked away.
What this woman did was trying to get my attention. It was the daytime equivalent of a woman stepping on your toes in a night club. Yet, a lot of men seem to be completely oblivious of that kind of signal. Among my clients, this is not an uncommon topic. It happens quite often that some guy tells me that women completely ignore him and that he must be invisible to them — only for us to quickly discover that he indeed gets plenty of signals. He just never noticed them.
A key aspect of female flirting is plausible deniability. Rarely will it happen that a woman makes a bold
It helps to be observant. Whenever a woman does something that is ambiguous, more often than not it is her attempt at flirting, no matter how awkward it may objectively be. In her mind she may even be throwing herself at guys. Let’s say you see a woman at the bar who is busy with her smartphone, standing a few feet away from her friends. She asks herself why nobody has approached her yet as she is making it oh-so obvious that she wants to meet someone. That does not mean that she may not just want to reject a few guys to feel better about herself, but that is another story. You’ll never find out if you don’t approach her. That is precisely the point. She won’t approach you. She also does not want to give off clear signals as you not reacting to them would sting, so the best you can expect
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