Some time ago there was a comment on my blog in which a supposed quality guy voiced his confusion that he wasn’t getting laid despite all his quality attributes. He somehow confused “quality guys” with “weak beta simp’. The first question he asked was:
1. What is it about these guys that women love about from the very beginning they meet? There’s no shortage of articles on the internet that argues women are driven to seek these types of guys cause somehow they demonstrate qualities that a quality guy does not possess and are absent in a quality guy.
It is too strong a claim that they “love” those guys from the very start. It has very little to do with love. Instead, it is mere lust. Those are guys that simply make vaginas tingle due to their looks. If a stud like that walks into a bar or a club, there will be women who are more than willing to drop their panties right away. That is why some guys can randomly make out with girls they have not spoken a single word to. A “quality guy” who is lacking in the looks department will never evoke those feelings of lust in a woman. Instead, they will be seen as the safe bet once the Chads and Tyrones have moved on to younger women.
I would say you are in a bad spot if you live in a fantasy world. What is worse is when those people manage to keep up their delusions even though all indications are to the contrary. If you think you are a hot guy but no woman ever looks at you, they could of course be intimidated by you — or maybe you are just not that good looking. Or imagine you believe to be rich when in reality you are in debt up to your eyeballs.
Fishing for an explanation for his lack of success with women, Mr. Quality Guy further asks,
2. What causes these women to over-look a quality guy, and choose these abusive partners (bad boy)?
Well, they will come to the betas eventually. As a “quality guy” you are just not the first, second, or even fiftieth choice when it comes to engaging in reckless sexual behavior. Women seek out beta simps when it’s time to settle down. While they are young and attractive, though, they want to have fun with Chad and his friends. Furhtermore, I would not assume that every guy a woman has readily sex with is abusive.
The big misconception of “game” is that your behaviors can somehow compensate for a lack of looks, money, and status. The claim is to “fake it until you make it”. Yet, genuine confidence is nothing you can fake. Furthermore, you will not become confident by acting as if. That does not even make sense. What is worse, though, is when guys then go on to spout out that “looks don’t matter”, even though that is a line that has been ridiculed too much. Still, some people believe that, like our commenter:
3. Is the quality guy not doing something that is that the bad boy is that is increasing her attraction to him (bad boy)?
Stop with the “quality guy” bullshit already! A quality guy is an attractive guy who has his life together. If you think you are a quality guy because you are “nice”, meaning you let everyone walk over you because you don’t stand up for yourself, you need to take a long hard look at yourself. A real quality guy would not wonder why he doesn’t get laid. Instead, he has women actively showing their interest in him.
It would be ridiculous if you said that you are rich, even though you are poor. Similarly, if a quality guy remains undetected by the woman around him, he is not a quality guy. If your net worth is negative, you’re not rich. You’re poor. If no woman wants you, you’re not a quality guy. That does not mean that every quality guy has to be in a relationship or get involved with women. It is quite possible that they are happy on their own because, surprise, quality guys have something going on in their life and stuff to do. They do not need women to complement them. Yet, to someone studying “game”, that’s presumably yet another thing to fake.
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