A while ago one of my readers, Neutralrandomthroughts, asked me the following, which I paraphrase from memory:
If you had a son, would you encourage him to fuck around?
This is a question I have thought about quite a bit. My girlfriend also asked me about. In the following, I’ll outline my current position on this issue, but I do so in deliberately provocative terms.
Based on my personal experience, and also due to the negative effects I have seen women have on men I would strongly encourage my son, or sons, to have a lot of sexual experience. However, I would not want them to engage in sex with random women. They should also forego relationships until they are well into adulthood. Instead, my approach would be as follows: They would get a sex doll at an appropriate age, probably at around 16. Considering how far we have come in that regard, I don’t even want to imagine what the state of the art will be like in a decade or two. This will certainly go a long way to demystifying sex for him. Furthermore, from what I gather, pair-bonding chemicals get released with sex dolls as well, and this seems much safer than having my precious son fall in love with some useless teenage thot.
In addition, I would not only encourage him to bang professional women but pay for it. It should be roughly comparable to having a meal at a nice restaurant because you feel like it. Let’s say we travel and we are in a country where prostitutes are attractive and reasonably priced. I’d hand him a wad of cash, or the electronic equivalent, and tell him to go wild. I would also want him to have sex with women from different races, which means that a father-son trip to a place like Thailand or the Philippines probably will have to happen. The point of this is to demystify sex (with women) and, more importantly, not overvalue regular women. It does not matter whether you bang a good-looking prostitute, the ideal sex doll, or regular chicks with a great body, the effect will be the same: the typical average woman will not be able to put you under a spell. You just won’t care about them. You want your son to get to the point where he’ll just look through your typical 6/10 woman, unlike the average beta cuck who could not believe his supposed luck if a mildly unattractive woman gave him the time of day.
There is the very real danger that young and inexperienced men fall prey to predatory females. Young guys are very horny, and some good-for-nothing woman may just view them as a mark. A particularly egregious example from my real-life experience is provided by a woman of around 30 years of age who went after freshly enrolled medical students. That was in Germany, where Medicine is an undergraduate degree. She ended up with some less-than-alpha looking guy around ten years younger than herself who seemed easy to manipulate. More generally, I have encountered unattractive women going after inexperienced guys who are well above their league. The guy falls in love, not because she’s so great but because it’s all new to him, and his life gets ruined as a consequence.
Another issue is that the sooner you get over the misguided belief that women are oh-so-special, the better. You should also get over the initial emotional rush. Countless young men fall in love with teenage girls for the sole reason that they happen to be around them a lot. On the other hand, a teenage guy who has a fantastic sex doll at home and a budget to dip into to bang escorts won’t be affected by that very much, if at all.
How much would it be worth it for me? In 2018 price levels, I’d say 2,000 Euros for an excellent sex doll and a budget of an additional 2,000 Euros for fucking escorts, covering the last two years of high school, should do. If he gets into a good university, he’ll be rewarded accordingly, probably with 2,000 Euros/year budget for hookers, to be used up during term breaks. I’d essentially pay him not to have a girlfriend, and the money would be very well spent. I may have to finance his university education anyway. In that case, getting a girlfriend would mean he will have to pay me back in full, with slightly below market-rate interest. (If he does not like the terms, he’s welcome to take out a regular loan.) Not having a girlfriend would mean the money is interest-free, but using my hooker budget could, for instance, reduce his debt by the same amount, or by a variable percentage. Thus, by banging hookers, he would not only get to bang them for free, he’d get a nice chunk of money on top, too. Imagine I told you that you could bang a 300 Euro-escort on my dime, and if you do it, I’ll give you 300 Euros afterwards. You may even do it just for the money.
You may find that my stance is a bit odd. It is largely due to the very good impression a number of well-off young men have made on me. Those had the good fortune that their dad paid for their escorts. Concretely, this meant that they got a generous allowance they could use however they wanted. Their attitude towards women was a lot more relaxed than what I have encountered among regular men who allow themselves to get dragged around by their dick, looking like pathetic fools. An alternative is turning my son into Aaron Sleazy Jr., but I think he’ll find much better uses for his time. Money for hookers will get him a similarly detached mindset regarding women. For this you don’t necessarily have to be born rich. I have encountered plenty of whore-mongers who were able to acquire a similarly detached perception of women.
Women are an enormous distraction for men. For an ambitious man, their influence is most certainly overwhelmingly negative. In every stage of your life they can mess you up. Let’s skip the disastrous effect poor mothers or incompetent female teachers have and jump straight to romantic relationships: in high school, or job is to get good grades so that you can get into a good university. Some random thot is not worth dragging down your GPA. The same is true at university. Go to the best school you can get into and if some random chick you are dating back home does not want you to go, but neither wants to follow along, it’s her problem. Similarly, I have met men who were held back during their job search. They were pushed by their girlfriend to go for a safe job with limited potential as opposed to a great gig that may only last for a few years but which would give them excellent exit opportunities.
It is surprising how often guys either give up their dreams or not even develop any ambitions because they have chained themselves to a woman. One of the smartest guys I know works as a web developer in a non-descript company because his girlfriend is not geographically mobile, for instance. That’s probably not the kind of work you should do if you are really smart. Once I had a coaching call with a guy who was distressed because his girlfriend “gave him an ultimatum”. She has some shitty local job in the college town they met at. She did not want to give up that job — and he had gotten offers for several top-PhD programs in STEM, universities you will have heard of. My first question to him was, “What would you advise a friend of yours to do if he was in that very same situation?” (He left her, thankfully.) Those are just two examples, but you can find a lot of men out there who never even got close to living up to their potential because they are emotionally held captive by a woman they could very easily swap for a much better-looking one. I think in all those cases, the lack of sexual experience is to blame.
There are also men who get emotionally crushed when their sweetheart breaks up with them. Some heartbreak is a healthy reaction. Yet, you may know guys who ended up binging on alcohol or reignited a bad drug habit as a consequence. There are plenty of guys who quit their job after a breakup because they could no longer focus at work, or who got fired because their contributions were no longer up to par. Is that what you want for your real or hypothetical son? I thought so. You don’t want to raise a cuck. No, instead, you want to raise a guy who sees no value in getting involved with women for just the purpose of sex. Instead, raise a son who wants to first find out who he is, instead of some spineless simp who feels “incomplete” if he does not have a woman, any woman, next to him.
I would consider myself to have failed as a father if my son entered a serious relationship with a woman before he is in his thirties. I would like him to have had sex with at least 50 women by his mid-twenties. He can bother with a relationship once he has firmly established himself, which I consider the only sensible approach. This way, he would end up with a much better-looking woman who, of course, should be only in her early twenties.
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