My dating advice largely centers around the importance of looks, status, and money. Of course, this is in stark contrast to mainstream advice by dating gurus who proclaim that “looks don’t matter”. It is of little surprise that about a decade after the PUA heydays, such claims are no longer as prominently made. People have been slowly realizing that they have been sold a lie. It could have been that simple: just open your eyes and realize what women react to positively. That was apparently not good enough for some men. Those much preferred getting lied to by the likes of guys like Mystery or Tyler from Real Social Dynamics.
The growth of the MGTOW community is a direct consequence of the failure of commercial dating coaches to deliver on what they promised. Despite claiming that “we all know that one guy” who gets laid like Mick Jagger in his prime despite being short, ugly, and broke, the fact of the matter is that if you are deficient in the categories that matter, your dating success will be severely limited. True, you can be broke and bang a lot of women if you have the looks. For a long-term relationship, on the other hand, you’ll have a hard time getting anywhere if you are not financially stable.
A YouTube channel that is occasionally mentioned in the comments is FACEandLMS. I do not know who is behind it. I suspect it is a former member of the seduction community who stopped believing the lies of seduction gurus and afterwards decided to produce his own content in order to prevent other guys from deluding themselves. If you have not watched any of his videos, I’d recommend going through at least a few of them. I dislike that his material is structured like TV programming for the masses, where the same points get repeated a few times so that you can watch it even if you have missed the first half. Then again, he may deliberately target the average Joe who not only needs to be spoon-fed, but also get hit over the head over and over.
Once you realize how important your looks are, you have several options. One is to throw in the towel and get frustrated. That is one way of dealing with the problem. Yet, if fatalism or even defeatism is not your cup of tea, then there is a lot you can do to become more attractive to women, if that is what you want. It is perfectly fine if you decided to not bother with women, at least when it comes to dating. Most women will make no positive contribution to your life, so the question is simply how much pussy is worth to you.
In any case, the important realization is that you can change. Material like the videos on the channel FACEandLMS can be depressing to watch for some men. After all, you may be short or not be in great shape. Yet, while there is not much you can do to appear taller than you are, your body weight is something you can easily control. It takes quite some level of maturity to accept responsibility for that. This reminds me of a client I had some years ago who did not want to listen when I told him to slim down. To him, women had to chase him even though he was bordering on obese. For shorter guys, a healthy dose of realism is also helpful: just forget about dating tall women. True, your options will be limited, but you still can get laid.
The bigger issue is that very few people want to actively work on themselves. They much prefer someone lying to them that “looks don’t matter” or that your “personality” is what counts in dating. Of course, scammers are more concerned with exploiting people for financial gain and only incidentally with not hurting anyone’s feelings. Yet, as a modern society, we would arguably be much more advanced if we simply dared to call a spade a spade. What would you prefer: being lied to, which only leads to delusions of grandeur and slot or facing the truth, which hopefully jolts you into action?
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