Blog reader “Mr. Nobody From Nowhere” left a very detailed comment on my recent post Stealth Western whores: prude at home, slut abroad. The first part is a general reflection on how to increase your success with women, the second is about red flags. His post deserves greater attention, so I’m promoting it to the front page of my blog. Here it is:
It’s funny, because I undertook self-improvement before encountering or reading anything in the PUA-sphere or manosphere. For reference, I am a short (5’5), bi-racial male.
I am so glad that I avoided most of the “reading material.” Just by using my common sense, I realized that a) getting a top-tier physique would help me, b) finding interesting hobbies would help me, c) that obtaining a high status career would help me, and d) that obtaining a high personal income would help me.
Magically, the further I moved along the parallel paths of a-d, the better my results with women. Not only that, but I received increasing respect from other men as well.
Your material is the only material that repeats common sense. Of everything I came across (a friend was inspired by my journey and showed me a lot of the material — he hadn’t read anything by you), yours is the only true road to success.
Just. actually. be. a high value man.
An example of the silly thought process aspiring ‘PUAs’ have: my friend asked me how to pull from clubs as a short man. I told him “simple, buy bottle service at a table and go with a large crowd of people — include some women in your group if possible. Or, learn how to dance — very very well — take classes consistently for 6 months to a year.” This upset him, and he started to argue with me. He then started talking about all of this nonsense regarding DHVs, and ‘over the shoulder’ talk, and on and on.
Why argue with common sense? I will never understand. It is easy to make up a bunch of stupid stories. It is easy to ape silly ‘over the shoulder’ body language or whatever. The advice I gave him requires building a lifestyle to support obtaining women and therefore requires much more effort. He would have none of it.
With regard to having the proper ‘alpha attitude,’ I told him “yes, you will naturally exude a calm, relaxed demeanor if you crack the top 1% of income — or even the top 10% will be enough for you to notice a difference. If you gain 20 pounds of muscle and add 2 inches on to your arms, you will notice a huge difference. If you wear an expensive, well-fitted, suit, you will also notice a difference. If you find a high status career that you are both good at and proud of, you will also notice a difference.” Again, he insisted on nonsense about “inner game” as if it just springs ex nihilo.
Which brings me back to you and this OP. I notice that my thoughts regarding women strikingly mirror your own. Most of the manosphere seems to realize that Western Women (especially Western White women) in this era are exhibiting many behavioral pathologies, to put it nicely. But what you notice that many others in the manosphere don’t notice is that most men are losers. Pure and simple.
I believe that personal self-improvement is the only path toward seeing women for what they are and getting out of a scarcity mindset where you create these idealized fantasies of women to better tolerate their complete insanity.
Half of the time I want to tell aspiring PUAs or self-improvers not to do it for women — not because you will not acquire more of them but because you will realize that most of them really are not worth it.
More whore red flags I have noticed:
When a girl proudly declares she drinks hard alcohol.
Whenever a girl tells you “I’ve never done this before” past the age of 18.
When a woman demeans you because of something outside of your control and insists on continuing to seek out your attention (this happens to me a lot — a woman will, out of nowhere, make a disparaging comment about my height and when I remove myself from the situation or ignore her, she will continue to seek me out almost wondering why I’m not making any advances on her)
When a woman who barely knows you insists on discussing sex with you or asking about sex (this also happens to me a lot).
When a woman who you barely know suggests taking part in a risque activity.
When a woman aggressively makes plans with you and flakes on those same plans (this one is always a headscratcher — more common with young women I believe)
When a woman insists on talking to you and being aggressive about seeking your sexual attention and then, unprompted, expresses concerns about you developing feelings for her (this one is too unreal)
When a woman has more than one male friend or seems to know a lot of guys and is touchy-feely with men (I don’t care what she says, she has fucked at least half of those men she’s hugging and joking with — do not make her a permanent fixture in your life)
I’m sure there are more, but most women simply are not worth the time. And, if you are hard up, go ahead and get yours. Otherwise, just go on a few dates first.
The old rules about dating are true and will stand the test of time: wait to have sex if you are not hard up. Get to know the person. Putting your dick in crazy is a mistake you cannot afford to make as a high value man. It will wreck your life.
Thanks for letting me share!