While going through my notes, I came across yet another comment that was left on my blog years ago, by a reader named Martin L.
I have an idea for a blog post I’d love to see you do in the near future–how to distinguish women that genuinely, for biological reasons, have a high libido from simple garden-variety sluts. Don’t know if that interests you or not, but if it does, I’m sure you will have some choice things to say about it. Thank you.
I found this rather interesting. The most important insight is that there is a big difference between having a high sex drive and a high partner count. If someone, regardless of whether we’re talking about a guy or a girl, wants to have lots and lots of sex, then the obvious choice is not to look for a large number of sexual partners.
For young women it’s easier to find one-night stands. They only have to show up and someone will approach them. However, the question is whether they want to have sex with that particular person. In fact, women who jump from one cock to another don’t necessarily want to have a lot of sex. They are much more concerned about validation, regardless of how cheap they may feel afterwards. With guys it’s the same. I’d say that it’s worse because guys have to make more of an effort compared to women in their prime. Even if you’re attractive and popular with the ladies you’ll it may take quite some time to go from “hello!” to sex.
Another problem is that non-committal sex isn’t necessary particularly good. You’ll probably have the best sex of your life with a long-term partner. Also, unlike those people who so desperately want to get laid with strangers, couples who are in a committed relationship will, if they so desire, have plenty of opportunity to have lots and lots of sex.
A problem “garden-variety sluts” may face, though, is that they may simply be unable to keep any guy around because they have such toxic personalities. However, instead of trying to work on the root of their problems, they go for the supposed quick fix and simply spread their legs for the next guy who comes around, hoping that he’ll stick around a bit longer. This leads to an interesting question: Could it be that sluts are simply women who are unable to keep a guy around, either because they have a shitty personality, or because they don’t know what qualities to look for in men for long-term relationships?