Occasionally, people recommend I check out Rollo Tomassi’s popular blog “The Rational Male”. I skimmed a few posts. Personally, it’s not for me as his writing is incredibly meandering and very fluffy. I also noticed that he’s been teaming up with a bunch of dubious characters in the commercial PUA industry but, hey, the man’s gotta eat.
In particular, one reader asked me what I thought of Rollo Tomassi’s statement,
“Alpha is a state of mind, not a demographic.”
Do you want to know what I think of it? It’s complete horse shit! If it’s not immediately obvious, I’ll elaborate. For that reason, let’s do a little thought experiment. Let’s compare guy A and guy B.
Here is guy A:
– white male
– 6’3″ tall
– decent shape
– great hair
– graduated from a name-brand university
– $250k liquid in the bank, zero debt
– great career with a great company in a great city
– super-hot girlfriend who is smart and kind and educated, too
– excellent health
– yuge cock
– nice pad
While all the losers on seduction forums love to wax lyrical about how “game” is about your “attitude”, it’s complete nonsense. If your life is going great, and I mean great instead of “I can spin it in a way that may sound impressive if nobody asks probing questions”, you’ll likely feel great, or let’s say that it’s extremely unlikely that you’ll feel depressed. About what? Your job is challenging, but just challenging enough, so you get to exercise your brain, and you don’t need to decompress in front of the TV afterwards. Besides, dinner is ready, but your girlfriend wants to feel your huge cock again. Sweet life, innit?
In contrast, here’s guy B:
– shit genes
– dropped out from a shit-tier university
– $100k student loan, lives paycheck to paycheck
– zero marketable skills, thus he flips burgers in a shit town
– doesn’t get laid, but is big into hentai
– looks 10 years older than he is
– lives in mom’s basement
– puny pen0r
– smokes a lot of weed
– has a sick kill/death ratio in Call of Duty
Quite frankly, it doesn’t matter how “alpha” guy B thinks he is. Fact of the matter is that he is a loser and reality will catch up with him. Maybe he’ll feel good for a moment or two, but wait until he realizes that he’s got a shit job in a shit town and still lives at home. That’ll bring every alpha down. He shouldn’t feel good about himself, and if he had half a brain left, he’d figure out that he has to get his life together, or he has a future as a meth addict ahead of him.
If you want to feel great, you better get your life in order because in the real world losers feel like losers because they are losers; nobody gives a shit about how “alpha” you feel as women just aren’t going to flock to you, or certainly no quality women. Losers fucking top-shelf women just isn’t going to happen, no matter how many instances of “that one guy” you fantasize about who bang supermodels despite all their shortcoming.
If you’re guy A, you only have to show up and women will make it very easy for you. No, this doesn’t mean that you can afford to be a complete social retard, but that’s about as rare as being an admirer of both Hitler and Hillary Clinton. In a nutshell, Rollo Tomassi’s dictum is a variation of “Looks don’t matter” or, more precisely, “Only game matters”. Yet, in the real world, if you want to get anywhere, the way forward doesn’t consist of changing your mindset but working on yourself. Maximize your looks, get some marketable skills so that you can support yourself, and get your own place. Then we can talk about getting women. It is next to impossible to feel good about yourself if your life is in utter disarray. Similarly, it is next to impossible to feel down if your life is genuinely going great. However, let’s not scare of those losers who believe that supermodels would come knocking at their door if they only managed to fix their “state of mind”.