In my post on Jordan Petersons’s misguided view on MGTOW, blog reader “patriarchal landmine” left the following sarcastic comment:
it’s obvious that when mom locked me in my room and withheld food from me, it was because I was a bitter loser mgtow who just couldn’t get laid at age 8.
First of all, thanks for sharing. Second, this behavior points to an issue that is never addressed in the mainstream and also, to my knowledge, fully ignored by “dating gurus” and “life coaches”: there are genuinely evil and thoroughly fucked up women out there. In particular, inexperienced men need to be warned of that. The issue is that they tend to have a highly idealized view of women. They are harmless guys who don’t swear, don’t start fights, don’t deadlift, don’t cheat, and don’t steal. If there are no rules in place, they create a set of rules to follow. Of course, I’m exaggerating. Yet, the issue is that the average guy is unable to handle the average girl.
The average girl will have had more experience with men (think a second or two how this works out numerically before leaving a comment); she most likely is also a much more social creature. That’s easy to do if you’re female and young. If you’re male and young, nobody gives a shit about you. So, young and inexperienced Mike goes out into the dating world. What could possibly go wrong? With a bit of bad luck, women may even approach him, or they may make it very easy for him. A woman doing all the work for you is a bad sign, but how would Mike know? All he wants it getting his puny pen0r wet. He does not have any reference experiences either. Maybe things work out fine and his first girlfriend is perfect: young, smart, healthy, emotionally stable. It could easily turn out differently, however.
One of the most profound experiences I’ve made is that there are genuinely evil women out there. I don’t want this article to devolve into a “best of” of all the insanity I personally had to experience with the superior sex (oh boy!), so I’ll only mention one particularly pernicious aspect. Do you guys know what gaslighting is? It is a psychological manipulating technique, and it only really works if the victim is in a weakened state. The goal is to make the victim question his perception of reality and doubt his own experience. The method is quite simple: the abuser does something reprehensible and when the victim questions it, the abuser denies it happened. For instance, your girlfriend could ask you for twenty bucks, but when you want the money back, she would deny you lent her any money. She may even claim she never asks you for any money at all. Another example (and a pretty stupid one, but one a girl once tried to play it on me) is her asking why you didn’t call her back — but she hasn’t called you. She then claimed I must have deleted the list of recent calls on my phone, even though I could easily demonstrate that that was not the case. This somehow led to an argument as I didn’t call her back, and never call her back, and don’t care about her. Obviously. Well, I didn’t say that gas lighters are smart or rational. In any case, when I realized that the girl I was seeing was gaslighting me, I knew I had to get out. Of course, there were other red flags, but back then I believed you could “work things out”.
The reason I mention this is that even though you may be an honest and kind person who would never harm anybody else, there is no guarantee that people you interact with behave in a similar way. If a woman starts to pull crap, it’s not because of you. Don’t, for one second, tell yourself that. Do not make any excuse for the crazy behavior of a woman. If it wasn’t you, she would pull that crap on someone else instead. The guiding principle is therefore to be watchful. If you notice that something with her behavior is off, plan your exit. She will not change. It will only get worse.