On the current open thread, Yarara left a comment on his experience with girls who shared stories of abuse or attempted abuse. Here is a brief excerpt:
I would say perhaps 1 out of every 5 or 6 girls I have slept with has shared one such story of attempted or actual abuse (roughly 50% stories are attempted abuse and the other 50% actual abuse) not at first, but usually after having slept a few times together.
This is a rather interesting aspect of picking up women, and I don’t at all mean this in a morbid way. In fact, I would be surprised to hear any guy who has had far more sexual partners than the average saying that he never or hardly ever encounters such women. In my experience, it is not uncommon to meet such women. Yet, the numbers Yarara reports are not representative of women in general. Instead, the following seems to be the case:
1) You will have more success with women who are more outgoing. You won’t the first guy she goes home with. In fact, I would not all all be surprised if the average number of sexual partners of women who have one-night stands or who engage in casual relationships was significantly higher than of more conservative women. Well, it’s implied in the wording, but I’m thinking of large multiples. A conservative woman may have one or two boyfriends before marrying. On the other hand, a bona fide slut will easily have sucked over a dozen cocks dry by the time she hits 21.
2) Promiscuity correlates with some rather undesirable — speaking of long-term partners — personality traits. Indeed, some promiscuous women are turned on by dangerous men. Thus, they dramatically increase the chance of physical or sexual abuse. Heck, to mention a few of my crazier stories: I once pulled a girl home who slipped into some rather bizarre role-play during foreplay, and wanted me to get aggressive with her. Some other woman even told me to hit her as hard as I could as the sight of bruises on her body would turn her on. (No, I didn’t do either of them that kind of favor. The latter I didn’t even fuck as I really wasn’t all that keen on giving her the power of putting me in jail.)
The combination of crazy & promiscuous leads to all kinds of undesirable outcomes for women. As they get around, your odds of getting involved with a genuinely damaged woman are thus increased.
So far, I have been speaking of more or less normal women. Yet, there is also an aspect of emotional manipulation which I encountered with women on the bipolar spectrum, so I would like to conclude this post with a warning.
Crazy women have their fair share of crazy stories to tell. What makes those women so alluring is that they “love-bomb” you in the initial stage of a relationship (this is a red flag!), and during that time, their batshit insane alter ego is kept well under wraps. It will come out eventually, and you may get a first glimpse when, for instance during an intimate moment such as pillow talk, she “opens up”, and tells you some real or imagined stories of her horrible encounters with men in the past, which may very well be a gross distortion of facts. If you enjoy living life on the edge, feel free to probe when a genuinely crazy woman tells you about an ex-boyfriend who allegedly raped her while they were in a relationship, or inquire how she even managed to end up in the kind of situation she just described. Just scratching on the surface of her carefully constructed facade may be enough to turn her into a monster at a moment’s notice.
If you are Captain Save-A-Ho, maybe because you have barely gotten laid in your life and now you have a chick in bed who seems way hotter than what you think you deserve (and fucks like a porn star), then you are in real danger as she will use her messed up past to make you “care” for her. Your protective instinct may be a genuine liability in that case. A much safer way of proceeding is that whenever a woman “opens up” and tells you an unpleasant story like that, she is completely disqualified for a relationship. Start plotting your exit, and ask yourself why you didn’t notice any of the undoubtedly countless red flags beforehand.