In the comment section to my last article Don’t bother getting body fat down to sub-10 % levels, none other than Alek Novy demolished a reader who presented some rather questionable hypotheses with regards to working out. Even if that guy was right, Alek Novy still wins that argument because if an extra 1% in your results cost you 100% more effort, you are well past the point of diminishing returns.
The term Alek used in that discussion was “min/maxing”. This is a concept used in role playing games, and stands for the idea of minimizing the weaknesses of your character, and maximizing its strengths. This means, for instance, putting all the experience points you gain while levelling up into “intelligence” for a sorcerer, or “strength” for a warrior, while ignoring all other character attributes. You Glass Cannon character will deal a lot of damage, but he will also be extremely vulnerable.
Min/Maxing can be performed in real life too, though. For instance, you may put all your “time” units into body building, at the cost of all other activities you could do, like learning an extra skill in your spare time, which will help you personally or professionally. We have long entered a time in which video games no longer dare to take players accountable for their actions, so difficulty settings get lowered, and any “build” can make it through the end in the slog of an RPG you are playing. Gone are the days where you could end up with a character it is impossible to progress past a certain point because you sunk all experience points into attribute X. I think that if people would experience failure more often, be it in school or even just in fucking video games, they would make less stupid decisions in their life as well.
But where am I going with this? Well, the problem is that I have encountered quite a few people who were min/maxing “game”. You tell them that they should know about their limitations, the caliber of women they can expect to bed, and where to find them. Yet, Joe Average tells you he’d rather work on his “game”, trying to pull women of a caliber he may not be able to get at all. I mean this quite literally. Joe Average, with his average IQ, average height, and average job will never ever ever get a top-shelf woman without paying for it. Heck, he may even experience that top-shelf escorts, which he thinks he can just save up some money for, will refuse his money. (Yes, top escorts may have standards.) Yet, instead of improving his position in life, he focuses on learning “game”. If you now think I’m making this up, you should have been around when Mystery-style “pickup” was in its heyday. Someone should have grabbed those suckers by the shoulders, shaken them and asked them whether they are stupid. Many, quite frankly, were.
A related phenomenon is “OCD partner selection”, for lack of a better term. If you want a partner, and be it only for one night, what do you do? Will you do what Joe Loser does and think that only a genuine Ten will do it for him, or will you be realistic and go for a woman who ticks enough of your boxes? No, I am not at all advocating going for “garbage-tier” women. Let’s say you want a one night stand. All you want is bust a nut in some nice warm pussy. What’s a plausible list? Something like this:
– turns you on
– (Optional: hot enough to make Mike, Jack and Chad jealous when you show them pictures of her the next time they come over to play Super Smash Bros.)
That’s basically it. The reason why this does not imply going for garbage-tier women is that if you are a good-looking dude, you normally will not find women attractive who look comparatively worse. If that doesn’t apply for you, then it’s even better for you as there are many more to choose from.
Okay, let’s say you’ve temporarily graduated from “smashing sloots” and now want a girlfriend. What’s a good list? The situation is no longer as simple, but a plausible one would be:
– you like her
– able and willing to make a living
– parents still together
– younger than you
– (if you want kids: young; as close to the legal age of consent as possible)
– doesn’t waste her money on bullshit (bonus points: steadily saves some money)
– doesn’t bitch or doesn’t bitch too much (in private)
– does not bitch in public
– world-view not too dissimilar
– maybe one or two interests in common
This would be a pretty solid list. Considering typical Western women, it’s not that easy to find a woman that fits that bill. No, not at all, even though it may look utterly unremarkable. Yet, if you’re Deluded Joe, your list would have three dozen bullet points. Heck, guys who were virgins told me about their “exact type”, when they should be concerned about getting laid first. If you only want to fuck your “exact type” you may end up like those old spinsters who are still waiting for that billionaire CEO in his early twenties with a square jaw and chiseled abs who is also a complete cuck. If you want a girlfriend, then go meet a few cute girls, and if there is mutual interest, and she seems like a reasonably good candidate, just give it a go. That way, you’ll get plenty of experience, and even if things don’t work out, you’ll have learnt a lot for your next relationship. On the other hand, dudes who claim they only want the best are likely to resort to porn and a bottle of lube until the cows come home.
In case some moron trolls are eager to comment below that I’m apparently telling guys to “settle”: dudes, the caliber of women you attract is basically the same because you’re not even going to register women who aren’t at your level, and you won’t get much attention of women who are above you in terms of looks and/or social status. If you’re an unattractive dude with nothing going for him, then no “Ten” will ever daydream of sucking your dick. If you want to bang hotter women, you’ll need to work on your foundation: looks, status, money, and accept your limitations. Or do you think The Donald fucked an army of uglos until he met Melina? Most certainly not. He probably banged hundreds of models, probably doing little more than pointing at his dick and telling them to say hello to daddy.