When my grandfather married, his wife was 19. He was almost 50. It was an obvious deal, consisting of trading youth for resources, and it was seen as perfectly okay back then. Of course, feminists fume when they hear stories like that. It bothers them beyond belief that the prime resource women bring to the table is one with a very limited shelf life. As a guy, though, your age does not matter so much as long as you don’t fuck up things too badly. Even if you don’t have a stellar career, ten to fifteen years of consistent work and socking away money put you so far ahead of the competition it’s not even funny.
I know a few guys who just had to have a Mercedes-Benz or a BMW as their first car. Now, if you are from a really well-off family, this may not be much of an issue, but if you are barely middle class, then keeping up with the Joneses this way is completely stupid. A guy I know spent the equivalent of a downpayment for a nice apartment on a car and its maintenance in his 20s. He’s no longer in his 20s, but because of that utter stupidity and a bit of bad luck he’s still living at home. It was just money down the drain. If your choice is between an expensive car or an apartment, the latter is probably the much better option. I can’t quite fathom where that kind of fiscal irresponsibility even comes from. Then again, among Western women such is almost expected, but as a guy?
Both men and women are in a race with members of their own sex. With women, the race is against the clock as they need to trade their youth and fertility while they can. If they fuck up, let’s say because Feminism 101 at Moron U went to their head, they are done. It’s quite tragic. They end up being 30, with no useful skill and no prospect of getting married. But, hey, maybe scissoring with hags while a bunch of cats complain about lack of food isn’t all that bad? (I’m quite certain it is as shitty as it sounds.) If their life isn’t set on the right path at age 25, maybe 30, it’s fucking game over. It seems God has a particularly insidious punishment in store for women who disregard their biological role: a long, long life of misery. Just think about it: they fuck up their life in their 20s and then they still have a good 60 or more years to make it through.
On the other hand, this is how it works with guys: your life gets started at an age where the average woman is already on a downhill slope. Even if you need a few more years to get your life off the ground, all is not lost. If you mess up your twenties, you’ll get another chance in your thirties. Heck, even your early 40s are not too late to turn things around, albeit the deck is getting stacked against you fast. Yet, as long as you manage to gather resources, you will be attractive to at least some women. Of course, the question is whether you want to share what you have worked so hard. Yet, the option is there. If you play your cards right, you are on easy street from your early 30s onward.
Money and resources are one part of the equation. Your physical fitness is another. Quite some time ago I made the offhand remark that as a guy, given a bit of luck and the right circumstances, you could probably live some resemblance of a player lifestyle until you are in your mid-50s. No, you likely won’t be able to bang the hot 18 year-olds from the club, but among the loose single moms you’d be hugely in demand. I remembered having thought about that scenario when I came across a picture from an old Harrison Ford movie, What Lies Beneath, which was released in 2000. The main roles are played by Harrison Ford (58) and Michele Pfeiffer (42). Michelle Pfeiffer is, by all means, a very attractive Western woman. Yet, at 42 her looks have clearly started to fade. Now compare this to Harrison Ford who, at an age of almost 60, was deemed sexy enough to be shown on screen half-naked:
Michelle Pfeiffer, on the other hand, was not allowed to show her aging body. Quite frankly, it would not have looked out of place if you had put a 30-year-old woman next to Harrison Ford in that scene.
The takeaway is that if you intend to settle down, you should aim for a woman significantly younger than you. She’ll catch up with you anyway. Just imagine what would happen if you, say, as a 42-year old, married a 38-year old woman. Even at the time of marriage, she would look significantly older than you. Wait what happens once she hits menopause!