When I think of my bros, I get the impression that none of them ever wanted to have children. Those of them who do, however, all accidentally impregnated their girlfriends or fuck buddies, who were then able to upgrade their relationship to marriage. In the underclass, that kind of behavior may be unusual. Their women seem to just pump out another kid, happily spend child benefits on booze and drugs, and prowl the hood for the next loser to knock them up. Wash. Rinse. Repeat. Alas, in civilized society, that is not how things work. Normally, guys who get a girl pregnant end up marrying her. That’s certainly the norm in the conservative area I grew up in.
Looking back at my occasional encounters with the fair sex, though, I have the impression that the wish to get pregnant seems to be an absolute. Instead of wanting to have a child with you, they first and foremost want to have a child, and then they look for a guy. Otherwise I couldn’t explain why women don’t insist on protection. It may be a typically Western approach, though, because many of those women have the twisted idea that the sole way to get a guy to commit is by spreading their legs. Consequently, they may also believe that the sole way to get a guy to marry them is by tricking them into getting them pregnant.
At this point we arrive at what might seem to be a chicken-or-egg problem, though. However, considering how incredibly slutty Western women are, I am tempted to believe that they first and foremost want to have sex. With whom to have sex with is almost a distant afterthought. Almost anyone will do. In the worst case, they just hop to the next cock on the carousel. Of course, very few women can play the game like that, but it is quite obvious that entering a sexual relationship, and may it only last for a few hours, is something that many Western women casually do. The number of dicks your typical Western whore has had in her mouth may well exceed the number of people she formally introduced herself to.
Let’s think ahead for our Western whore! She won’t do it herself, so it’s better if we red-headed alpha bros do it. She’s gotten her fair share of dicks in the form of one-night stands. Some of her relationships even lasted a few weeks, but now that she’s entering her mid-to-late 20s, she starts to panic. Guys still don’t want to commit to her (why would they?), and it seems she’s running out of options. Now the biological clock starts ticking loudly. What is she supposed to do? Just like she used to chase after sex, and viewed guys as a means to an end, she now wants to have a baby. In the latter case, she likewise views guys as a means to an end. First she wants to have a baby, then she starts looking for a guy.
As I am not a woman, I am only speculating, but that interpretation seems to make a lot of sense to me. In contrast, though, I think guys approach sex differently. It’s not the case that Chad has the unspecific wish to have sex. Instead, he wants to have sex if he bumps into a chick that turns him on. Thus, he goes from finding a suitable woman to wanting to have sex with her. It’s largely defined by the environment whether Chad wants to have sex or not. If he needs to buckle down because he has an exam in Marketing Principles 101 coming up, and holes himself up in his room, then he likely doesn’t incessantly think of sex. However, should his buddy Brad knock on his door, with two drunk chicks in tow who are starving for dick, then his focus may quickly change. Thus, your environment plays a significant role whether you will actively pursue women. This is the reason why Brad hits on chicks in slutty clothes in the club, but doesn’t pester passers-by in the mall. Well, maybe he does that in Miami, where chicks walk around in bikinis. In the cold climes of Northern Europe he likely wouldn’t.
A few years and countless sluts later, Brad is in his 30s and may want to settle down. Let’s say he’s lucky and there were no unwanted pregnancies. At one point, though, he may consider having a family. In that scenario, though, I claim that the child wish is the consequence of finding a suitable mate first. That was certainly my experience. The thought of having children with any of the women I dated at some point in my life used to give me the chills. I may have entertained the thought briefly with one or the other, but after a few hours sanity was restored and I thought of what disastrous mothers those women would be. Do you want a Western whore to be the mother of your children? Thought so.
In my case, my outlook on the question whether to have children completely changed after meeting a woman I get along with incredibly well, and that is quite an understatement to begin with. It is unbelievable how warm and pleasant her personality is. (I’ll refrain from waxing lyrical about all her other qualities.) I got the impression that she would make an excellent mother, and from there it didn’t take long until I thought that it would be wonderful to have children with her. Before meeting her, the thought of having children wasn’t ever seriously on my mind.
I’m curious how you guys view that issue. I know some people where children were actively planned. That’s still fairly common back home in Conservative County, even though there are the occasional stories of girls who “accidentally” get pregnant, leading to a sometimes rather unexpected marriage. Particularly my bros, though, seem to be at a high risk of getting trapped. However, those observations are largely based on my time in Berlin, Germany, which is a very “progressive” city where single moms abound. Probably a lot of the young and young-ish women are so brainwashed that they would be offended if their boyfriend suggested marriage because getting kids out of wedlock is seen as “normal” there.