When you look back at PUA theories of yore, you’ll get the impression that their creators were unable to deal with uncertainty. In order to achieve a certain outcome, they invented a bazillion of steps, like “overcoming last-minute resistance”, which is pretty much a bogus idea to begin with. For some, like Mystery, getting a girlfriend was apparently the holy grail. I can’t be arsed to look it up right now, but he claimed that you would need to master his version of highly formulaic pickup before you could even consider attempting to have a relationship.Probably there was another 20-volume DVD series on how to keep a girlfriend in Mystery that was just waiting to get out.
Sadly, the fundamental problem with formulaic approaches is that they do not appreciate the chaotic nature of dating and mating. By this I mean that we are dealing with a very complex situation with far too many variables. For the geeks among my readers: PUAs think meeting women is a finite state machine where you move from A to B to, eventually, Sex. There is only a limited number of valid actions to get from one state to the next, and if you don’t manage to progress, you simply made a mistake. Of course, every woman is yours for the taking. But, bro, you gotta learn the steps! The reality, though, is that we’re not dealing with a finite state machine but with a large-scale optimization problem with a genuinely infinite input space. There is so much crap that could go wrong (and right) that it is impossible to take every action and reaction into account. Instead, the best you can do is using heuristics, which is precisely what I have been preaching for over a decade now (buy Minimal Game if you haven’t bought it yet).
The problem with the entire span of the interaction, from hello to sex to relationship to growing old together — or breaking up and starting at square one again — is that you have no control over the woman you are interacting with. There are no clear rules either, and if she’s a slut, or simply has poor impulse control, she can easily end up in a situation in which she will cheat on you without her having planned it in advance. This is a prime reason why every girl who insists on “having a girl’s night out” is fundamentally untrustworthy as they are putting themselves in a situation in which things can happen that are out of their control. All it takes is getting a bit tipsy, grinding against some dudes crotch and, oops, she feels his boner, gets a bit horny, gets a bit hornier, until her emotions take over and she ends up fucking a guy even though she may only subconsciously have wanted to. This does not mean that she didn’t “love” her boyfriend as she was on the way to the club, though.
The bigger picture is that women normally do not actively pursue guys. Instead, they put themselves in positions where “something” could happen. In the end, it’s always the guy who is to blame. She screwed another dude, her boyfriend broke up with her afterwards, and of course in her mind nothing was her fault. Thus, a very good heuristic for picking a woman for a relationship is to choose one who does not want to constantly “meet new people” or “have fun with her friends”. Yes, this is coming from a guy who has fucked a lot of women who had a boyfriend, fiance, or husband. I couldn’t have fucked them had they not put themself in a situation where they could meet guys they find attractive and who may create an opportunity for them to act out their sexual desire.