As someone tried to pull out the old “looks aren’t everything” card in the comments section recently, I’d like to point out how devious that kind of argument is. First, those people claim that all I promote is “looks, looks, looks”. As a follow up, the claim is made that if all you had were looks, you wouldn’t get laid. Probably this means that good-looking guys are assumed to be so dumb that they can’t hold a basic conversation, or don’t know how to get their dick into a wet pussy. By the way, PUA shills, women who are really horny tend to even put it in for you. That kind of argument is then supposed to show a contradiction. Let’s try this again, but slightly more formal:
1) X claims that only looks matter
2) if you only had looks, you couldn’t get laid; for instance, you may have a repulsive personality
3) (Conclusion:) looks don’t matter, but “game” does
This isn’t even a proper argument, not even taking into account that it is operating on false premises. Well, from false premises you can deduce anything, but this implies that your conclusion is useless.
The majority of your success is due to looks, money, and status. True, if you are an utterly obnoxious asshole, you may not get laid as much as you otherwise could. I could certainly tell one or two stories where girls walked off because I said something they thought was “insensitive”. From that I learnt that if I wanted to fuck libtards, I need to keep my mouth shut. However, to get to the point where your personality could repel a girl, she needs to be interested in you at some level. Thus, your personality will only work against you, but hardly ever for you. It will cause girls to walk off after you caught their eye. However, if you are not able to get them interested in you, due to your poor foundations, then your personality, as great as you may think it is, won’t count for anything.
The role of your personality is much different than what PUAtards claim. A great personality, whatever that may be, will not do anything for you if you’re a fat slob. Be honest, Joe PUA, you don’t really give a fuck about the personality of the whales at your local dive bar either, right? On the other hand, severe incompatibilities may led to you not being able to get laid, although you easily could have. The fix for that is so trivial it’s barely worth putting in words: don’t say anything too controversial. You know, basic etiquette. The only adjustment you may need is that some women are a lot more sensitive towards certain allegedly controversial topics than you may assume. I think that it’s good when women disqualify themselves, but among the
pussy beggars PUAs, this isn’t a particularly popular opinion to have.
Of course, there are also basic misunderstandings. To give you one example: once I was working on a cute French girl in a club. She was really into me, and it didn’t bother me much that her English was fucking atrocious. At one point, though, she said something I really didn’t understand. So I asked her to repeat herself. I still had no idea what she was talking about, so I said that I didn’t knew. Then she got pretty pissed off, told me I was an asshole, and was gone. Do you know what had happened? I later on figured out that she most likely asked me whether I had a girlfriend, and when I told her that I didn’t know, she drew the wrong conclusion. That’s one for the “shit happens” category. Besides, a “gamer” who lacks looks, status, and money won’t even get to that point.
As a very last point, let me highlight that “personality” is almost a joke. As I said, guys don’t care about the personalities of unattractive women. Furthermore, good-looking girls tend to have more pleasant personalities anyway. With guys it’s quite similar. Thus, the dichotomy between looks and personality is laughable. If you’ve got your life together, are in shape, healthy, and keep your mind engaged, chances are you’ve got a pretty appealing personality too. Yet, PUAs deny this and fantasize about the great personality you could develop if you only tried “game”. Here is something to think about: why shouldn’t it be the case that your “personality” is a reflection of how you live your life? If that is the case, then a PUA weirdo will never be able to develop a “great” personality as he’ll still be a weirdo, just like some fat chick who stuffs her face because she hates herself (because she’s fat) won’t.