Today I stumbled across a pretty interesting video with a female drummer. She was good. She was also wearing extremely provocative clothing. In fact, I wondered how she made it past YouTube censorship. As I watched her tits wiggle while she eagerly worked her drum set, I thought of something else. Yeah, that too. But I was also reminded of female behavior I have encountered quite a few times over the years, namely that women attempt to use their looks to get ahead. If we are not talking about prostitution, or trying to get a guy to commit, I don’t think this is a particularly smart decision. In fact, a plausible argument can be made that women who draw too much attention to their looks, no matter whether they are good-looking or not, may not be the ideal choice for a relationship. Interestingly enough, it may not even be a good strategy in prostitution. As I recently learnt from a reader, the “girl next door” tends to be in high demand, often much more than the whorish look.
Women in sexually provocative clothing first and foremost distract from their abilities. If she is really good at what she is doing, it won’t take long until other women, or her “friends”, start spreading rumors that she got a job, promotion, or gig because she blew some executive. Instead of letting her work speak for itself, she distracts from it and is reduced to being perceived as a bimbo. I think to some extent this also applies to showbiz. In that regard, the problem is that a successful entertainer is likely to have a career that outlasts their youth. Yet, if you build an image based largely on your sex appeal, you’ll run into a problem sooner or later.
Madonna’s early career was largely built on her breaking taboos, wearing lingerie on stage, and obscene lyrics, like her singing about wanting to blow Jesus in “Like a Prayer” (♫ When you call my name it’s like a little prayer / I’m down on my knees, I wanna take you there ♫). Yet, for how long could she keep up this image? Well, she tried it for much longer than she should have. On the other hand, her talent as a singer was quite apparent, so one could probably argue that she would have done very well even if she hadn’t exposed herself the way she did. The way it turned out, she has been an embarrassment on stage for much longer than she hasn’t.
In the end, I think it boils down the problem that no woman can live off her looks for too long. I know, I know, these days we have affirmative action for womyn, so it doesn’t matter. Yet, this has the very same effect as some HR ditz letting her tits hang out in an interview. Even if they are really competent, you wouldn’t take them seriously. In that regard, affirmative action for womyn is even worse because even women who realize its ramifications can’t opt out of it, while a competent woman can certainly chose to not dress like a whore.
I can easily imagine White Knights reading this and concluding, “Yes, yes, womyn have all the power and we wimpy men have none!” But not so fast, guys: in the very best case a woman can use her looks to her personal advantage. However, this affects only a very small percentage of women, and only for a rather limited number of years. On the other hand, there are plenty women who are at best clumsy in her flirtations and provocations, either because they are not attractive at all, regardless of age, or because her best years have long passed. In the end, it’s a losing strategy. This applies to the professional world the same way it applies to dating. Most guys would much rather have a woman who does not dress like a harlot, and not just those who only fuck prostitutes with the girl-next-door look.