Despite MGTOW sites growing in popularity, the average red-blooded male is still very much concerned about getting laid. True, he may not get a lot of pussy, but he’s certainly spending a lot of money on its pursuit. Thus, more or less every guy can easily be made aware of the enormous monetary cost of chasing women. We have had discussions on my old blog on this topic before, where people generally agreed that escorts are a more cost-effective alternative than trying to pick up random women, besides the fact that a professional is likely to better satisfy your sexual urges than a random Six in a tight skirt.
The other day I was talking to an old friend of mine, a guy I used to hang out frequently when we were living in the same city. For him, women were a phase he went through. These days, he’s focussing on his job and making bank. Of course, if you don’t happen to get a cushy subsidized government job, this means that you regularly work more than 40 hours a week. He remarked that he doesn’t much bother with women, but when the opportunity is there, he goes for it, like when some HR ditz at a conference makes eyes at him. This is indeed where experience pays off because you just need to read the signals and figure out logistics, instead of fumbling from your “opener” to, somehow, sex.
I think the attitude of my friend is more common among older guys who deliberately choose to remain single. Because such guys tend to have busy lives, they are not particularly inclined to spend their weekends on dates or in bars. Younger guys may fret that they can’t afford dates or going to clubs a lot. Yet, once you’ve gotten a real job, you probably value time a lot more than money. Sometimes people make the following somewhat absurd argument: They earn x amount of money, which boils down to a certain hourly rate. Thus, a two-hour date would “cost” a certain amount of money. However, this argument may not be so convincing if you draw a salary because you don’t get paid in your spare time, which is why I consider that version of the argument flawed. On the other hand, if you worked as a freelancer with a fixed hourly rate, this argument would indeed be convincing: let’s say you work with the current flavor-of-the-month web framework and your client pays you $100/hour. If you didn’t work for two hours because you took some ditz out for lunch, you indeed didn’t make $200 in two hours, so the numbers don’t look so favorably.
In general, I’d like to suggest the following thought experiment: put a dollar-value on an hour of your time, and then calculate how much chasing women costs you. The result may surprise you. You may find that a moderately successful guy is pissing away thousands of dollars to get laid just once. Let’s say you freelance and your time is worth $50. You can work as much as you want, and there is plenty of work available because you are charging below market rates. Now, assuming you are a regular dude who does not particularly well with the ladies. You get a few numbers, some of which turn into dates, a smaller fraction into second dates, and every now and again you end up banging a moderately attractive chick, if you are lucky. That’s an opportunity cost of a few grand, buddy! Do you want to make a guess about what caliber of woman you could have banged with that amount of money, had you chosen to make money instead of wasting all those hours? Alternatively, you could put those hours to better use by working out or learning some useful skill, which would be beneficial in many more ways than just making it easier for you to get laid.